Bismillah Alhamdulillah was salaatu was salaamu ala rasoolillah
Rabbish sharah li sadri wa yassirli amri wahlul uqdatam min lisaani wa yafqahu qauli
As Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Pichle Dars me humne Surah Al-Masad ki tafseer ka pehla hissa suna, aur aaj bhi Surah Al-Masad ko aagay samajhne ki koshish karenge, aaj ke session me Surah nazil hone ke baad ke waqiyat, pichle dars me humne kuch sawal kiye the, unn ke jawabat, aur kuch scientific facts samajhne ki koshish karenge:
Ibn Ishaq apni kitab Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki seerat me likhte hain ke, Umm Jamil ne jab suna ke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) Tabbat yada Abi Lahabin wa Tabb ke zariye peshangoi kar rahe hain Umm Jamil ke baare me aur uss ke miya Abu Lahab ke baare me, to wo ek pathar ka mussal le kar Kaba ki taraf gayi jahan Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) - Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ke sath baithe the. Ibn Kahtir ne apni tafseer me ye detail di ke, jab Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ne Umm Jamil ko Badbadate huwe aate dekha, to aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se farmaya ke Umm Jamil aa rahi hai aur mujhe dar hai ke wo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko dekh legi, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke wo mujhe nahi dekh payegi. Phir aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne Quran ki Surah Bani Israeel ki, ye ayat tilawat ki;[1]
وَإِذَا قَرَأْتَ الْقُرءَانَ جَعَلْنَا بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَ الَّذِينَ لاَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِالاٌّخِرَةِ حِجَابًا مَّسْتُورًا
Aur jab aap Quran parrhte hain, to hum aap ke aur unn logon ke beech me, jo aakhirat par iman nahi rakhte, ek makhfi (hidden) parda daal dete hain.[2]
Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) aagay farmate hain ke, wo aayi aur hamare samne khadi ho gayee aur Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) par Umm Jamil ki tawajjoh nahi gayi, uss ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko nahi dekha aur wo Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) se poochti hai ke, “Maine suna hai ke wo (yani aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ)) mujh par tanziya shayari (defamatory poetry) kar rahe hain, (mujhe badnaam kar rahe hain). Agar wo mujhe mil jaye, to ye patthar se moh phorrh dungi” Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ne Umm Jamil se kaha ke, Kaaba ke Rabb ki qasam aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) tumhare baare me aise ashaar nahi kahe aur tum ko badnaam nahi kiya (Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ka matlab tha ke Tabbat yada jo hai wo Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ka nahi Allah ka kalam hai) phir uss ne kuch ashar kahe aur wahan se chali gayi, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko notice kiye baghair. [3]
Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki dawat-o-tableegh ko kuch hi mahine huwe the ke Hajj ka mahina aa gaya, aur Quraish pareshan the ke, hujjaj ko kaise roke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko sunne se, wo uski planning me lag gaye aur ye tai paya ke, sab hajion ko ek hi baat kahenge ke, “Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ek bahot hi powerful jadugar hai, jo ek bete ko baap se alag kar dega, ek bhai ko doosre bhai se alag kar dega, biwi ko miya se juda kar dega aur qabeele ko todh dega. Abu Lahab, Islam ka dushman ban kar samne aya, aur Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke piche piche rehta aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) jis se bhi milte, Abu Lahab cheekh kar kehta ke wo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki baat na sune, kyunki wo jhoote hain, aur apne deen se phir gaye hain. Naoozu billah min zalik. Beher haal aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne logon par kuch asar chhorha aur chand log islam qabool kare.[4]
Imam Bukhari ne apni kitab Sahih al-Bukhari me ye hadith record kiya hai, ke ek waqt Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) bimar huwe aur 2-3 raat ki ibadat chhoot gayi. Abu Lahab ki biwi - Umm Jamil ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se kaha ke “Aye Muhammad, Mera khayal hai ke, tumhare shaitan ne tumhein chhor diya hai, kyun ke do-teen dino se maine usse tumhare saath nahi dekha.” Iss par Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ye ayatein nazil farmayi; [5]
وَالضُّحَى * وَاللَّيْلِ إِذَا سَجَى * مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَى
Suraj ki roshni ki qasam, aur raat ki tareeki ki (yani raat ke andhere ki qasam) jab wo sukoon se chha jaye, ke Aye Nabi (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ)! aap ke paalne wale malik ne, na aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko chhorrha hai aur na aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se naraz huwa.
Ye dushmani yahan khatam nahi huwi, Abu Lahab ka beta Utaibah ne, ek baar Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki beizzati ki, kaha ke wo Quran par Iman nahi lata, aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke kapde phaad diye, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) par thooka. Iss par aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne dua ki, “Aye Allah! apna ek kutta iss par laga de” Sheikh Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri apni kitab Ar-Raheeq Al-Maktoum me likhte hain, ke Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne iss dua ko qabool kar li aur jab Utaibah apne doston ke saath Syria ke safar par tha, aur Az-Zarqa nami ek maqam par wo ruke to wahan ek Sher aya aur Utaibah ki taraf lapka. Utaibah ko Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki wo dua yaad aa gayee, aur wo kehne laga, Hai Afsos! Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne jo dua ki wo puri hogi, aur ye sher mujhe kha jayega. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) Makkah me rehte huwe mujhe yahan Syria me qatl kar diya. Wo sher bijli ki tarah aya aur Utaibah ko khatam kar diya.[6]
Abu Talib, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki safety ko lekar bohot pareshan rehte aur unn ka ye dar sahih tha kyun ke, mushrikeen-e-makkah ne ek mansooba banaya, plan kiya Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ka qatl karne ka aur Abu Talib Bani Hashim aur Bani Al-Muttalib ko jama karke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki hifazat karne aur unn ko defend karne ki takeed karte aur tamam qabile wale iss ko maan lete hain, siway Abu Lahab ke, jo uss qatl ke plan ka hissedaar tha.[7]
Martin Lings - jo Islam qabool karne ke baad Abu Bakr Sirajuddin ho gaye, wo apni kitab Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) me likhte hain ke, jab Umar (رضي الله عنه) ne Islam qabool kiya, uss ke baad Musalmaan khule aam namaz ada karne lage, Umar (رضي الله عنه) aur Hamza (رضي الله عنه) Musalmano ko lekar Kaba me namaz parrhte, aise maukhon par Makkah ke sardar inn logon se door rehte, ye unn ki izzat ka sawal tha, ke musalman namaz parrhe aur wo wahan khade dekhte rahe. Aur unn ko pata tha ke agar wo aiteraz karte to phir Umar (رضي الله عنه) kisi bhi cheez se baaz aane wale nahi hain. Iss ke bawajood, Umar (رضي الله عنه) ye na sonche ke unhone kuffar-e-makkah ko hara diya, Abu Jahl ke dabao daalne par kuffar-e-makkah ne ye faisla liya ke sab se behtar solution ye hai ke Hashim ke qabile ka boycott kar diya jaye. Abu Lahab ko chhorh kar tamam qabile wale Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko protect karne aur support karne ke liye tayyar the. Ek document banaya gaya, jiss me ye likha tha ke, koi bhi Banu Hashim qabile ke mard ya aurat se shadi nahi karega, koi dealing nahi hogi, na koi cheez bechi ya khareedi jayegi, ye boycott uss waqt tak rahega, jab tak ke Banu Hashim ka qabila Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko ghair qanooni qarar de kar ban na karde ya jab tak ke aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) nabuwat ka daawa chhorrh na de. Quraish ke 40 sardaron ne iss document par apni mohr lagai ya sign kiya, tasleem kiya, halanke sab iss ke haq me na the. Qabila al-Muttalib apne chacha zaad bhaiyon ko chhorha nahi to wo bhi iss ban me shamil kar diye gaye. Aur iss document ko kaba ke andar deewar par latka diya gaya.[8]
Ye ban, ye boycott 3 saal tak chala, bohot hi sakht ghareebi ka alam tha, khane ki qillat ho gayi, aur Quraish makkah me jo bhi khana aata wo saara ka saara khareed lete, taakay ye Banu Hashim ke qabile tak na pahunche. Abu Talib Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki jaan ke liye bahut hi zyada fikar mand rehte the, raat hoti to Abu Talib Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se kehte ke wo unn ki jagah par so jaye, aur jab sab so jaate to Abu Talib aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko apne sone ki jagah badalne ka hukum dete, iss dar se ke koi dhoke se aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko neend me na qatal kar de.[9]
Makkah ke kuch log iss boycott ko ab bardasht nahi kar pa rahe the, aur uss ke khilaf awaz utthaye aur wahi ke zariye aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko khabar di jaati ke wo boycott wala document ko cheentiyon ne kha liya, siway unn hisson ke jahan Allah ka naam likha tha, Abu Talib ye khabar le kar Kabatullah me aate hain aur logon ko batate hain, aur ye boycott khatam ho jata hai.[10] Ibn Ishaq ki seerat ke hisab se Surah al-Masad yahan nazil huwa,[11] lekin jaisa ke humne pichle dars me bataya, aur Bukhari, Muslim aur deegar ahadith ko jama karke, ke ye pehle nazil ho chuki thi.
Boycott khatam hone par Makkah me sukoon ka mahol ho gaya, aur musalmano ko pareshan karna fil waqt ruk gaya. Aur iss mamele ki exaggerated reports, Abyssinia pahunch gayi jahan par pehli hijrat ke baad musalman reh rahe the, jiss ko sunte hi, kuch log Makkah wapas aane ki tayyari me lag gaye, aur tamam log wapas aa gaye siway Jafar aur Ubaydullah ibn Jahash (رضی اللہ عنھما) ke. Wapas aane wale khafile me Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki beti Ruqayya aur damad Uthman-e-Ghani (رضی اللہ عنھما) the. Abu Salamah aur Umm Salama (رضی اللہ عنھما) jinn ka taaluq Makhzum qabile se tha, aur unhe yaqeen tha ke apne qabile se protection nahi milega, Abu Salama ne apne mamu Abu Talib ko protection ki request bheji aur wo fauran tayyar ho gaye. Makhzum ke qabile wale sakht naraz huwe ke Abu Talib ne aisa kyun kiya, to unhone kaha ke, ye meri behen ka beta hai, agar main uss ki hifazat nahi kar saka to Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki kaise karoonga. Iss mauqe par Abu Lahab ne apne bhai Abu Talib ki himayat ki, aur unn ke support me khada ho gaya. Makhzum qabile walon ko pata tha ke, Abu Lahab - Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke khilaaf unn ka pakka dost hai aur wo Abu Lahab ko naraz nahi karna chahte the. Abu Lahab iss maukhe par apne qabile ka saath iss liye bhi diya kyun ke uss ko pata tha ke Abu Talib ke baad wohi qabile ka sardar banne wala hai - to ussne apne qabile walon ki taraf daari ki, sirf iss wajah se. Aur ye bhi ho sakta hai ke Abu Lahab ab ye samajh gaya tha ke Abu Talib zyada din zinda rehne wale nahi hai.[12]
Boycott khatam hone ke 6 mahine baad Abu Talib ki tabiyyat kharab ho jati hai aur unn ka inteqal ho jata hai,[13] aur Abu Lahab Banu Hashim Qabile ka sardar ban jata hai, lekin Abu Lahab ne apne bhatije (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko jo tahaffuz diya, jo protection diya wo mehaz baraye naam tha. Aur jo bad-salooki aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke saath ho rahi thi wo pehle kabhi nahi huwi, tarah tarah se aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko sataya ja raha tha.[14] Abu Talib ke inteqal ke 2 mahine baad aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki zaujah Khadijah (رضی اللہ عنھا) ka inteqal ho jata hai.[15]
Ye tamam museebaton ke bawajood, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) tableegh-e-deen nahi chhore.[16]
Aakhir Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko qatal karne ka plan banta hai aur bait-an-nadwa, jo ke parliament tha Quraish ka, jahan par har qabile se ek shaks ko chuna jata hai, unn 11 logon me Abu Lahab bhi shamil hota hai, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko qatal karne walon me.[17] Zyada detail me jaane ka mauqa nahi hai, Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri apni kitab Ar Raheeq Al Maktoum me likhte hain ke ye 11 log aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke ghar ko gher lete hain raat ke andhere me, aur plan ke mutabiq subah hote hi aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko qatal kar denge. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ka aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko Madina hijrat karne ka hukum hota hai, aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) Ali (رضی اللہ عنہ) ko apne bistar par sone ka hukum dete hain aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki chadar odh kar. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) apne ghar se bahar aate hain aur qatilon par mutthi bhar khaak, dust daal dete hain Surah Yaseen ki ye ayat parrhte huwe;
وَجَعَلْنَا مِنْ بَيْنِ أَيْدِيهِمْ سَدًّا وَمِنْ خَلْفِهِمْ سَدًّا فَأَغْشَيْنَاهُمْ فَهُمْ لَا يُبْصِرُونَ
Aur humne unn ke aagay bhi deewar khadi kar di aur unn ke peeche bhi deewar khadi kar di, phir unn par parda daal diya, to ye dekh nahi sakte.
Abu Lahab aur unn ke qatil saathi jo maukhe ka intezaar kar rahe the, ussi waqt unn ko kisi ne khabar di ke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) to chale gaye. Jab wo andar gaye to Ali (رضی اللہ عنہ) ko dekh kar pareshan ho gaye. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) seedhe Abu Bakr (رضی اللہ عنہ) ke ghar ko jaate hain aur wo dono Madina Hijrat karte hain, Quraish ki tamam na kaam koshishon ke bawajood, wo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ka qatal nahi kar paye.[18]
Jung-e-Badr hoti hai jiss me Makkah ke tamam sardaar shamil hote hain, siway Abu Lahab ke, wo apni jagah par Abu Jahl ke bhai ko bhej deta hai, kyun ke uss ne Abu Lahab se qarz liya tha aur ada nahi kar pa raha tha. Wo shaks iss shart par jung me hissa lene ke liye razi ho jata hai, kyun ke Abu Lahab ne kaha ke uss ka poora qarz wo maaf kar dega.[19] Kayee Makkah ke sardar Jung-e-Badr me maare jaate hain. Jung ke baad Makkah wapas aane walon me sab se pehle Abu Sufiyan tha, jo abhi tak Islam nahi qabool kiya tha. Badr ki haar ne Abu Sufiyan ko hila diya tha, unn ko sab se pehla khayal ye aya ke wo Kaaba ki ziyarat karein, aur ittefaq se Abu Lahab bhi wahin baittha tha zamzam ke khaime me. Abu Lahab ne Abu Sufiyan ko awaz di ke wo aye aur jung ke halat bataye, Abu Sufiyan ne kaha ke,
“Mujhe itna hi kehna hai ke, humne dushman ka muqabala kiya aur apni peet pher kar bhaag aye, aur Musalmano ne ya to humein bhaga diya ya qaidi bana liya. Hum to apne logon par ilzaam bhi nahi laga sakte hain, kyun ke hamari fauj ne Musalmano ka to muqabila kiya hi, aur unn logon ka bhi muqabila kiya jo safed kapde pehne aur kaale ghodon par sawar the, jin par safed patches the (black horses with white patches) - jo ke aasman aur zameen ke beech me bhar gaye the. Aur ye logon ne tabahi ke siway - kuch na kiya, koi unn ke saamne khada nahi ho sakta tha”
Umm al-Fadl (رضی اللہ عنھا), jo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki chachi aur al-Abbas ki biwi thi, wo bhi uss kheme ke kone par baitthi thi, aur unn ke saath chacha Abbas ke ghulam Abu Rafi bhi the, jo teer bana rahe the. Umm al-Fadl aur Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنھما) dono musalman ho gaye the, lekin wo apna Islam abhi tak kisi par zahir nahi kare the, aur ye log Abu Sufiyan ki baatein sun rahe the. Abu Rafi ye sunn kar ke, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) badar ki jung jeet gaye, aur safed kapde wale ghod sawaron ka waqiya sunn kar, apni khushi rok na paye aur unn ke muhn se ye nikal gaya; “ke wo to farishte the”. Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنہ) ki ye khushi dekh kar Abu Lahab par ghussa cha gaya aur wo Abu Rafi ke chehre par mukka maarte huwe zameen par gira deta hai, Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنہ) apne aap ko bacha nahi paye, aur Abu Lahab apna ghutna unn par rakh deta hai aur baar baar unn ko peet-ta hai. Umm al-Fadl (رضی اللہ عنھا) ye dekh kar ke wo Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنہ) ko maar dega, wahan pade kheme ki lakdi ko uttha kar Abu Lahab ke sar par poori taqat ke sath maar deti hain. Iss waar se Abu Lahab ka sar phat jata hai, aur wo zakhm itna ghera tha ke wo sadh jaata hai, antibiotics to thi nahi uss zamane me, Abu Lahab ka jism ek hafte me phodon se bhar jaata hai aur wo mar jata hai.[20]
Abu Lahab ke zakham se jo badboo aa rahi thi, uss ki wajah se mayyat ke qareeb koi nahi ja raha tha. Uss ke ghar walon ne murda naash ko sadhte huwe chhorrh diya, jab 2-3 din guzar gaye aur badboo mohalle me phail gayi to padosiyon ke dabao me aakar Abu Lahab ke ghar walon ne ghulamo ka intezam kiya uss ki mayyat ko wahan se nikal kar, dafnaye. Makkah ke bahar, door se mayyat par pani dala gaya, aur lambi lakdiyon se qabar me dhakel diya gaya, aur door se patthar phenk kar dafan kiya gaya.[21]
Pichle dars me humne ye hadith suni thi ke, Abu Lahab ne Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki paidaish par thuwaiba ko hath ke ishare se azad kiya. Fath al-Bari jo Sahih al-Bukhari ki sharah hai, Imam Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani iss hadith ke explanation me likhte hain ke, Abu Lahab ke inteqal ke baad, Ibn Abbas ne unn ko khwab me bohot hi bure haal me dekha, aur poocha ke aap ko kya mila, hume chhorrh kar jaane ke baad? Abu Lahab unn ko jawab deta hai ke, mujhe aram nahi mila siway iss ke, ke peer ke din azab me kami hoti hai aur mujhe pani diya jata hai - unke anghote aur doosre ungliyon ke beech me. Kyun ke peer ke din aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) paida huwe aur jab thuwaiba ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki paidaish ki khush khabri mujhe di to maine apne haath ke ishare se uss ko azad kar diya tha. Iss liye Abu Lahab ko azab me ye rahat mil rahi hai.[22]
Abu Lahab ke bade bete Utba, Fatah Makkah ke baad Islam qabool kar lete hain. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne khushi se unn ka isteqbaal kiya, welcome kiya aur wo ek Ache musalman ban kar zindagi guzare. Aur Abu Lahab ki beti Durrah bhi Islam qabool karti hai aur wo ahadith jama karti hain aur logon ko sikhati hain. Durrah (رضی اللہ عنھا) ki ek hadith jise Imam Ahmed apni Musnad me jama kiya hai ke; “Ek shaks ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se poocha ke insano me sab se behtreen kaun hai? aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne jawab diya ke, “Insano me sab se behtar wo hai jo sab se zyada ilm hasil kare, jo sab se zyada Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) se darta ho, yani taqwe wala ho, jo sab se zyada neki karne ki dawat deta ho, aur sab se zyada gunahon se bachne ka hukum deta ho, aur jo sab se zyada sila rahmi karta ho.”[23]
Iss waqiye ki ek khaas baat note karna ye hai ke, ye jo peshangoi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne Tabbat yada Abi Lahabin wa Tabb ki shakal me ki, agar Abu Lahab aur Umm Jamil Islam qabool kar lete to Quran ghalat ho jaata, wo peshangoi khatam ho jaati aur Abu Lahab aur Umm Jamil kamiyaab ho jaate. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki dawat-o-tableegh ko jhoota ya ghalat sabit karne ke liye Abu Lahab aisa kar sakta tha, only to prove Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) wrong, lekin - ye iss baat ka saboot hai ke iss challenge ke bawajood Abu Lahab Islam qabool nahi kiya. Islam ke aane ke baad 12 saal tak zinda raha aur Quran ki peshangoi poori huwi. Ye Quran ka challenge 10 saal tak Abu Lahab aur Umm Jamil ke saamne tha, aur iss period me Abu Lahab ke kayee sathi Islam qabool kare aur Abu Lahab aur uss ki biwi iss peshangoi ko ghalat sabit nahi kar paye. Ye iss baat ka saboot hai ke Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) hamare Rabb - hamare paalne wale malik hain, Quran sachchi hai aur Allah ka kalam hai, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) - Allah ke nabi hain aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne Quran ko hum tak pahuncha diya.[24]
Ye tha Abu Lahab ka sara waqiya, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) iss waqiye ko hamare dilon me basa de, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki mohabbat jaise hamare dilon me honi chahiye, waisi izzat aur mohabbat hamare dilon me bhar de, aur sunnaton par waise hi amal karwale ya Allah jaisa ke aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki sunnaton par amal karne ka haq hai, kehne wale ke liye aur sunne walon ke liye iss dua ko Allah paak qabool farmaye. Har shaks jo ye sunn raha hai, Apne apne amal ka jaiza le aur koshish kare amal karne ki.
Ab ye doosra section, Humein kya karna hai me, hum ye dekhenge ke, jab Abu Lahab jaise log hamare kaam karne ki jagah me, offices me, society me aur ghar me ho to pressure kaise banta aur hum uss se kaise deal karenge;
There is positivity in Islam, 3 din tak gham manao, mayoosi kufr hai
The idea and space Abu Lahab occupies could be there in our minds, we need to get out of that space, if we ourselves are the ones occupying such ideas and space and harming others.
Ye problems Musalmano me aa gaya hai, aur treatment is zaroorat hai, kyun ke maloom hi nahi ke humein treatment ki zaroorat hai. Ab agar koi ye bole ke bhai, Psychiatrist ke paas bata lo, to kahenge ke main pagal nahi hoon.
Psychological pressures ko teen major hisson mein ya categories mein divide kiya ja sakta hai
a. Pehla hissa - hum jahan kaam karte hain wahan ka pressure hota hai
b. Doosra hiss - hamare ghar se bahar khandan ki wajah se pressure hota hai aur
c. Teesra hissa - hamare gharon me, maa-baap aur bachon ke beech pressure hota hai
1. hum ne 'work pressure' naam ki cheez, suna bhi hai aur hum mein se aksar, ne ise mehsoos bhi kiya aur kar rahe hain,
2. Agar ye 'work pressure' ek aad bar aaye to koi masla nahi hai, lekin agar ye mustaqil ho ya ziyada arsay ke liye ho toh takleef ka bais ban jata hai
3. Ye work pressure kisi bhi wajah se ho sakta hai,
a. agar kaam barabar bata hua nahi hai toh bhi ho sakta hai,
b. kisi aur tarikhe ka mismanagement hai toh ho sakta
c. ghair ekhlaqi mahool hai, jis mein har baat per danta ja raha hai
d. meetings mein mazaq udaya jata hai aur beizzati ki jati ho toh bhi ye pressure ban jata hai
e. chahe wo kaam ki jagah upko kitna hi accha ‘pay’ karti ho
4. kuch log itne majboor hote hain, kisi bhi wajah se ho sakte hain, jaise ke behan ki shadi hai, walid ka operation hai, bacchon ki padai chal rahi hai, waghaira waghaira, unke ke pass kabhi itna jama hi nahi hua ke wo doosra kam dekhle, koi aur naukri talash kar lein
5. ziyada tar dekha gaya hai ke owner’s ya jo senior position per hote hain, wo log chahte hain ke apne employees ya subordinates se na sirf unka khoon choos lein bal ke unke bone marrow ko bhi choos lein, isliye ke wo unhe salary de rahe hain
6. samajh lijiye, ye hi log Abu Lahab ka kirdar aata karte hain 'workplace’ ya kaam ki jagah per, jinki wajah se aam insan ki zindagi pressure mein aa jati hai, aur wo pressure itna bad jata hai ke log khud-khushi bhi kar lete hain
7. Forbes magazine ki 2020 ki report[25] mein bata gaya hai ke 46% ‘stress’ kaam ke pressure ki wajah se aur 28% apas ke masalon ki wajeh se suicides ho rahe hain, aur ye figure ‘50 year’ high per chala raha hai,
a. report ye bhi batati hai ke mard 15 gunah ziyada shikar (prone) hai aurton ke ba-nisbat ke khud-khushi karle.
b. report mein aage bataye gaya ke zyada tar employees jo khud-khusi karte hain, unko mental health ya psychological disorder tha, jo ki address nahi huwa, yani ke ‘treatment’ nahi hua, jaise ke pichle hafte hum sun chuke hain ke kitne logon ko pata hi nahi ke unhe medical treatment ki zaroorat hai, bas andar-hi-andar ghut rahe hain.
8. Covid ka period chal raha hai toh CDC ka naam toh suna hi hoga, (Center for Disease Control & Prevention), toh inki survey[26] ke hisab se workplace ke pressure ki wajah se depression ho raha hai jo ki aham wajah hai mazuri ki yani ke 'disability’ ki (WHO ne bhi ise mana hai)
9. Erik Gonzalez-Mule jo ke Indiana University se hai unki study, shaya huwi yani ke publish huwi ‘Journal for Applied Psychology’[27] mein, study mein bataya gaya ke kaam se jude huwe pressure ki wajah se depression hota hai aur uske natije mein maut ho jati hai, bataya ye gaya hai ke in dono ke beech mein yakeeni taur par taluq hai khas taur per aise logon ke liye jiske andar idraki salahiyat ya bardasht karne ki salahiyat yani ke cognitive ability, kam hai, khud-khushi nahi kar rahe hain toh bhi stress ki wajah se maut ho jari, bas, Allah reham kare
10. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke Qayamat ke kareeb, achanak maut ke waqiae sunne mein aayenge[28], toh aisa mahsoos hota hai ke shayad ye ‘psychological pressure’ hi hai jiski wajah se achanak maut ke waqiae sunne aa rahe hain, Allahu Aalam....., acche khase te, koi bimari nahi thi, bas kuch aisa huwa ke ‘heart attack’ huwa aur khatam ho gaye,...., andar-hi-andar ghut rahe the, lekin kabhi kisi se apni kaifiyat batai nahi, bas Allah Reham kare (aameen)
11. toh ab aise masalon ko kaise hal kiya jaye?
a. sab se pehle toh Quran aur Hadith ka ilm hasil kariye, har masale ka hal yaqeenan yahan par hai
b. Quran mein aata hai ke Allah ki zameen bahut wasi hai[29], toh iss mein phel jao, …., aap nikliye to sahi, phir dekhiye, agar nahi nikal sakte toh jan lijiye ke
c. Surah Tallaq ki doosri ayat mein aata hai ke jo koi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ka taqwa ikhtiyar karega Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) usay aisi jagah se dega ki wo soch bhi nahi sakta aur teesri aayat mein aata hai Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) uske liye koi (na koi) rasta nikal dega[30]
d. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne rizk ka zimma apne uper le liya hai, aur wo Razzak hain, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hain insan ka rizk uske peeche-peeche waise hi aayega jaise ke uski maut[31]
e. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hain ke Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ki badi ajeeb rehmat hai ke shirk karne walon ko bhi rizk dete hain, aur hum log rizk ke liye pareshan hain
f. ek formula hai success ka, aap shukr aada kijiye, Allah aapko aur dega,
g. apne requirements ko ghair zaroori mat badhaye, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hain ke jiske paas ek din ka khana hai uske paas duniya jahan ki sari daulat hai
h. sari batein cover karna to bahut hi mushkil hai, In-Sha Allah is hafte wari silsile ke dauran jitna ho sakta cover karne ki koshish karenge, fil hal quranic resources website per chaein, sukoon aur peace ke uper article hai use dekh sakte hain
12. ye sari batein toh apne liye ho gayi lekin Abu Lahab jaise logon ka kya?
a. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hai zalim ki madad kijiye, kaisay? use zulm karne se rokiye, phir yahan par aa jayega apni istetaat ke hisab se
b. agar aap oonche ohde per hain aur aapki company afford kar sakti hai to apne subordinated ke liye mental examinations conducts kijiye, aur jisko zaroorat hai ilaj karwaiye,
c. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke jahan narmi ya gentleness hoti hai wahan har cheez khoobsurat hojati hai jahan ye nahi hoti wahan sari cheezein bad surat ho jati hain[32], toh apni istetaat ke hisab se apne atraaf narmi ka mahol banaiye.
d. sirf pressure aur pressure se kaam nahi chalta, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) jahan dozak se dara rahe hain wahan jannat ki basharat bhi de rahe hain, ye balance khayam kijiye, dimagi tawazun, yani ke mental balance theek rahega toh, sukoon rahega toh productivity badegi, toh automatic profit bhi badega, ye hi bottom line hai aur issi ko samajhne ki zaroorat hai,
13. aisa nahi hai ke sare log ya sari companies ek jaise hote hain, acche log bhi hain, aur acchi companies bhi hoti hain.
14. ek taraf hum log hain jo apne gham-o-fikr mein doobe hue hain, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) quran mein farmate hain “agar wo iman nahi laate inn bayanaat per toh kya Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) apnay aap ko halaq kardenge gham ki wajah se ranj karke”[33],
15. aur unki batein Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko gham mein na daal de, yakeenan hikmat puri ki puri Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ki hi hai, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) sunne aur Janne wale hain[34]
16. toh ye fark hai,
17. Quran me Surah al-Baqarah ki 133 ayat me Yaqub (عليه السلام) apni maut ke waqt, apne bachon ko jama karke puchha ke, tum mere baad kis ki ibadat karoge? Yani Yaqub (عليه السلام) apnay bachon se pooch rahe hain ke kya tumhe maloom hai apne family ‘values’ ya hamare khandan ka ‘mission statement’ kya hai? Unhon apni zindagi me bachon ki tarbiyat ki, unhe deen-e-Islam sikhaya aur marne se pehle ye sawal kiya. Al Hamdulillah unka jawab positive tha ke, hum to aap ke Ilaha ki ibadat karenge, jo ke aap ke baap dada ka Ilaha hai, Ibrahim ka, Ismail ka aur Ishaq ka (عَلَيْهِمُ ٱلسَّلَامُ). Ibrahim (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) ki family me nabuwwat chali to inn ki family ka mission ek Allah ki ibadat karna tha.
18. Toh pata chala ke aisay khandan hote hain jin ki family ka ek mission hota hai, business family hai, apne bachchon ko aisa train karte hain ke unn ke business 150-200 saal se chal rahe hain, aaj bhi chal rahe hain. Jo sab se purani company hai wo Japan me hai - Lekin aise families ka kya haal hai, kya ye log khush hain?[35]
19. Toh aisay khandano per Ek research huwi jiske paas “mission statements” ya “vision statements” hote hain, inn logon se poocha gaya ke, kya aap logon ke bacche aapke iss mission statement mein se jo sab se aham statement hai, kya wo usko pehchan sakte hain? Aur kya aapke bacche wo kaam kar payenge? Sawal-o-jawab ke baad ye pata chala ke siwai chote chote statements ke, jaise ke ‘jhoot mat bolo’ ya ‘hamesha sach bolo’ hi yaad raha, aur kuch bhi nahi.[36] Jo zyada complicated statements the aur jin statements ki wajah se bachchon par maa-baap ya family members pressure daal rahe the, ya iss ki wajah se cheekhte aur chillate the, wo unn ko yaad nahi tha.
20. Uss research mein, aise khandano ke bachon ke dimag ke samne ke hisse (yani prefrontal cortex) ka MRI scan kiya gaya, ye dimagh ka wo hissa hai jo cognitive functions[37] ke liye zimmedar hai, matlab ke,
a. Apne aap ko qabu (control) mein rakhnay ke liye,
b. Samjhdari ke liye,
c. Memory, Information processing and storage ke liye,
d. Attention, focus ke liye,
Toh aise bacche jo ke khandan ke mission statements aur values ki wajah se pressure me rahe, unke dimag ka ye hissa itna develop nahi huwa, jo cognitive functions ko ubharna hai, wo nahi develop huwa. Aur doosri taraf jin bachon mein khandani pressure ya dabao nahi tha aur unke maa-baap ne unhe sonchne aur samjhne ki taraf ubharte rahe, unka dimag acche se develop huwa aur unke andar bahut clarity payi gayi.
21. Musnad Ahmed ki ek hadith me Gentleness ya narmi ke bare mein Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: narmi har ek cheez ko khubsurat bana deti hai jis me wo hoti hai aur jahan par narmi na ho toh har cheez ko badsurat bana deti hai,[38]
a. Jo cheez andar se khubsurat hoti hai wo bhi badsurat lagti hai, kadwe pan ki vajah se,
b. aur jo andruni taur per badsurat hoti hai wo khubsurat lagti hai gentleness ki vajah se,
c. misal ke taur per bachon se poochiye, toh wo batayenge ke unhe namaz ke waqt se sab se zyada nafrat hai, kyon ki jaise hi namaz ka waqt huwa toh ghar mein jis tariqe ka pukara aur chillana shuru hota hai, ussay unhe sakht nafrat hai, toh kya ho raha hai, jo andruni taur per accha kaam hai wo bure aur ghalat tarikhe ki wajeh se, gentleness nahi hone ki wajeh se uske andar ki acchai khatam ho jari
22. Khandani pressure khatam kijiye aur ek behtreen jagah banaiye, jahan khandan wale apni mayusiyan yani ke (frustrations) nikal pheke aur unke dil-o-dimag halke ho jaye aur unhe lage ke unki baat kisi ne suni
1. aaj kal hum hamare muashray mein dekh rahe hai, har jagah, hume aur khas taur per hamare bachon ko ye sikhaya ja raha hai ke, infiradiyat ya ‘individuality’ bahut hi aham aur zaroori cheez hai, infiradiyat se ziyada aham koi aur cheez nahi hai, ‘I love myself’, ‘apni pehchan bano’ se lekar ‘single parents’ jaise kai sari cheezein sikhayi jarahi hain, aur iss mein social media bahut hi aham role ada kar raha hai,
2. psychology ke nazariye se, aur sari scientific research ye batati hai ke infiradiyat (individuality) se zyada ahmiyat khandan, yani ke family ki hai, isliye In-Sha Allah aage Quran mein dekhenge ke Ibrahim (عليه السلام) jab bhi dua karte, toh apne liye karte aur apni aulad ko uss mein zaroor shamil karte, har bar ye hi mamool raha, [1]
3. aisa nahi ke insan ki apni koi haisiyat nahi hai, uski bhi hai, lekin usse bhi zyada, sabse zyada ahmiyat family ki hai, ek society ke liye family zaroori hai ba-nisbat ek infiradi shaks ke,
4. Ek psychologist jiska naam Ellen Galinsky hai, jo ke ‘Families & Work institute’ ke liye research ka kaam karte hai, unhone ek hazar bachon ka interview liya aur un sab se ye hi ek sawal kiya ke
a. agar aapke maa-baap se aap koi khwahish (wish) puri karna chahte hai, to wo kya hogi?
b. aur ye hi sawal unhone maa-baap se poocha ke aap kya sochte hai ki aap ke bacche kya bol ne wale hain?
c. ziyada tar maa-baap ne kaha ke yakeenan hamare bache yehi bol ne wale hain ke kash hamare walidein hamare sath ziyada waqt guzarte, lekin bachon ka jawab aisa nahi aaya
d. ziyada tar bacchon ne kaha ke hamari khwahish hai ke hamare waldain jab bhi hamare sath ho toh kum fikr-mand, kam bechain ho aur kam thakay huwe hon
e. toh ye tahqeeq ki khas bat ye hai ke bachon ne iss thakawat wali kaifiyat ko mehsoos kar liya. jab bhi insan thaka huwa hota hai to uska tolerance ya bardasht karne ki takhat kam ho jati hai, aur chid-chida pan badh jata hai bachon ki taraf
f.
jab insan
jismani taur per thak jata hai toh wo acchay se baton ko sunta nahi hai, aur
unn baton ki taraf josh, enthusiasm nahi dikhata, aur wo khush-manda nahi hota,
yani (optimistic) nahi rehta aur iss mein bechaini yani ke (anxiety) mila
lijiye, ke kal kya karna hai?, kahan se paise arrange karna hai?, ‘submittal’
ka kya karenge? pure taur per pareshan yani ke (burnt out), agar kisi ka din
office mein accha nahi guzra toh ye matlab nahi ke use license mil gaya ke wo
apna gussa bachon per ya apne ghar walon partner [2] per nikale
g. toh jab maa-baap relax rehte hain toh family mein bahut hi acche asrat hote hain yani ke bahut hi (interesting dynamics) hoti hain
h. jo kamyab maa-baap hote hain wo ghaur karte hain aur hosla afzai karte hain, aur jo na-kamyab maa-baap hote hain wo khoj te hain aur kamzoriyan talash karte hain (they spy and find faults),
i. bache bahut sari achi cheezain karte hain, aur bahut sari shararti cheezein bhi karte hain, lekin jo acchi cheezein karte hain wo maa-baap se chut jati hain, aur natije ke taur par unhe ye mehsoos hota hai ke accha rehna nuksan kar raha hai, toh wo apne ravaiyye mein sakht ho jate hain,
j. lekin ye jaan lijiye ke bache ussi cheez ki taraf rujhan dete hai jiski vajah se unhe tawajjuh, attention milti hai aur agar unhe tawajjuh nahi mili toh wo uss achi cheez ki taraf unka rujhan nahi rehta
k. toh ye research mein bataya gaya hai ke acchey maa-baap wo hote hain jo bachon mein acchayi dhundhte hai aur unn mein hosla afzai, encourage karte hain
5. toh psychology ye kehti hai ke, bachche wohi cheez karte hai ya dohrate hain, jiss cheez ki aap tareef karte hain.
6. aur ache maa-baap apne bachon ko unke, yani ke bachon ke jazbaati halat ke hisab se mamla karte hai na ke apni tabiyat ke hisab se (they deal with kids according to their emotional state rather than one own’s mood),
a. aaj us baare mein baat mat karna, wo acche mood mein nahi hai (don’t talk to dad, he is not in a good mood today)
b. apni maa ke paas mat jao, aaj unka din nahi hai (don’t get to your mom, it is not her day)
c. toh acche maa-baap wo hote hain jo apne bachon ke jazbati halat ko samjhte hain aur uske hisab se unse ravaiyyah ikhtiyar kare
d. aur sabse behtareen misal Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki hai, Anas ibn Malik (رضی اللہ عنہ) kehte hain ke ek bar Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) unke ghar aaye to Anas ibn Malik ke sautele bhai jo ki 03 saal ke the, aur unke hath mein ek choti chidiya (little bird) thi wo use sehla rahe the, to Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne uss chote bacche se poocha ya abu umair, itni choti umar se hi use khitab dete huwe poocha ya abu umair, kya haal hai tumhari chidiya ka?[39]......Aage Anas Ibn Malik (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) kehte hain ke Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) hamare ghar aate jaate rehte the, toh ek baar phir baad mein aaye to poocha ya abu umair tumhari chidiya ka kya huwa,...., abu umair rote huwe Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke paas bhag kar aaye aur chimat gaye, kehnay lage ke chidiya mar gayi, chidiya mar gayi,[3] ....., yahan ye ghaur karna hai ke kaisay Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne uss chote 3 sala bacche se mamla kiya aur unke sath kis tarha ka ravaiyya rakha, chote bacche, Abu umair ko unke jazbati halat ke hisab se maamla kiya
e. toh ye yaad rakh lijiye ke mera kharab mood ya meri pareshani meri family per kisi bhi tarah ka asar na kare, (by no means it should affect my family)
7. aur acche maa-baap wo hote hain jo sonchne samjhne ki salahiyat ko ubharte hain aur badate hain na ke bachon per nafsiyati dabou dalte hain, ye bahut hi gham zurda cheez hai, jo ke har ghar mein aam hai, bachon ko emotional black mail karte hain aur ye samajhte hain ke aisa karne se bachon ki hi madad ho rahi hai, lekin aisa nahi hai, sahi ye hai ke aap unke andar deen-e-islam ki talimat daliye, unki niyaton ko bachpan se hi theek kariye,
a. ye mat kahiye padhinge leikhenge toh banege nawab aur nahi padenge nahi likehnge toh banenge kabab, balke ye samjhaiye ke padhna likhna islam ka aham hissa hai aur Islam mein iski badi ahmiyat hai
b. ye mat kahiye ke suljhewe aur sanjida bano nai toh log kya bolenge, balke ye kahiye ke suljhewe aur sanjida bano kyon ke samjh bhuj deeni hissa hai
c. har kaam mein bachon ki niyyaton ko theek kariye
8. tankheed yani ke (Criticism) kam kijiye bacchon per, aur sahi rasta dikhaiye, iska ye matlab nahi ke unhe shararat karne dijiye, bas darmiani wali rah ekhtiyaar kijiye [4] [5]
9. Apne girehbano jhankiye, kahin yahan koi Abu Lahab to nahi baita, jaane anjane uss ideology ko follow toh nahi kar rahe? sonchiye
Jaisa ke humne abhi Abu Lahab ke waqiye me Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke amal ka jaiza liya, aur Abu Lahab ki beti Durrah (رضی اللہ عنھا) ki hadith suni, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) sila rahmi karte rahe aur sila rahmi karne ka hukum dete rahe, ye chand ahadith hai jo sila rahmi par hain;
a) Bukhari ki ek hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: rishtedaari poora karne wala wo nahi hai jo, uss rishtedaar se husn-e-salook ya rishtedaari nibhata hai jo uss ke saath rishtedaari nibhate hain; balke wo hai jo sachche taur par rishtedaaron ko barqarar rakhta hai, halanke doosre ne rishtadari todh li ho.[40]
b) Bukhari ki ek aur hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: Allah ne apni makhlooq ko paida kiya, phir jab woh usay khatam kar chuka to RAHAM utth kar Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ko pakad liya, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne farmaya kya baat hai? RAHAM ne bola, main unn logon se teri panah maangta hoon jo rishtedaaro ke rishte todhte hain. Iss par Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne farmaya ke, kya tum razi ho jaoge agar main uss shaks par ihsan kar doon jo tumhare nate rakhe aur jo tumhare nate tode uss shaks se meri nematein rok doon? RAHAM ne kaha, haan mere Rabb, phir Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne farmaya ke ye tumhare liye hai. Abu Hurairah (رضي الله عنه) ne mazeed kaha: agar aap chahein to Surah Muhammad ki ye ayat padh lo;[41]
“Ab kya tum logon se iss ke siway kuch aur tawaqqo (expectation) ki ja sakti hai ke, agar tum ko hukumat mil jaye to, zameen me fasad ya na insaafi phailaoge, aur khooni rishte todh loge?[42]
c) Bukhari aur Muslim ki hadith me Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: RAHAM, jiss se tamam rishtedaari nikalti hai, Arsh se latak raha hai, aur kehta hai ke, jiss kisi ne mujh se acha taloq rakha, to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) uss se taloq qayem rakhega aur jiss kisi ne mujh se apna taloq todh liya, to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) bhi uss se taloq todh dega.[43]
d) Bukhari, Musliim aur Abu Dawood ki ek aur hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: jo rishtedari todh leta hai, rishton ko qayem nahi rakhta, wo jannat me nahi jayega.[44] [45]
e) Bukhari ki ek hadith me aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: ke jo shaks ye chahta hai ke, uss ko zyada maal diya jaye, aur uss ki umar lambi ho to usse chahiye ke apne rishtedaaron ke saath acha salook kare.[46]
f) Bukhari aur Muslim ki ek Hadith me, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne khule-aam kaha ke, chacha Abu Talib aur unn ki family mere wali, mere dost, mere supports nahi hain. Mera supporter to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) hai aur wo log hain jo mujh par Iman laye. Lekin wo khandan se meri rishtedaari hai, jiss se main acha taloq rakhoonga.[47]
g) Tirmidhi ki ek hadith ka mafhoom hai ke, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, ek ghareeb ki madad karoge to wo sadaqa hai, aur agar ek rishtedaar ki madad karoge to wo sadaqa bhi hai aur rishtedaari ka taloq qayem rakhna ka sawab bhi hai[48]
h) Quran aur Hadith me hukum aya hai ke apne wadon ko aur qasamo ko poora karo, Abu Dawood ki ek hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, agar koi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) se nafarmani karne ki qasam khata hai to wo qasam jaiz nahi. Aur agar koi rishtedaari todne ki qasam khata hai to wo qasam jaiz nahi - Iss ka matlab ye hai ke, ye do qasame poora karne ki zaroorat nahi.[49]
i) Imam Bukhari ki kitab, Adab al-Mufarrad ki hadith hai ke, do kaam aise hain ke jiss ka azab duniya aur akhirat dono me milta hai, ek hai kisi par zulm karna aur doosra hai rishtedaari todhna.[50]
j) Muslim ki ek hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, bande ki dua qabool hoti hai, agar wo rishte todhne ki dua na kare aur be sabra na ho.[51]
k) Bukhari ki ek hadith me, Hakim bin Hizam ne Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se sawal kiya ke, main Islam qabool karne se pehle nek kaam karta tha jaise, sadaqa dena, ghulamo ko azad karna, aur rishtedaaro se acha salook karna, kya musalman hone se pehle ke ye amal ka koi ajar mujhe milega? To aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, ye nek amaal ki wajah se hi to tum, Islam qabool kar paye.[52]
l) Sahaba (رضی اللہ عنہم) ki hidayat;
i) Ibn Umar (رضی اللہ عنہما) farmate hain ke, agar koi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) se darta rahe (yani taqwa ikhtiyar kare), rishtedariyan nibhata rahe, to uss ki umar lambi ho jaati hai, uss maal-o-daulat badh jati hai, aur uss ke log uss se muhabbat karte hain.[53]
ii) Ibn Abbas (رضی اللہ عنہما) farmate hain ke, apne shijre ka, apne rishtedaron ka record rakho, takay rishtedariyan qaim rakh sako,
1) wo apne rishtedaron ko door nahi karega, jab ke wo qareebi rishtedar ho halanke wo door hi kyun na rehte ho.
2) wo apne rishtedaron ko qareebi nahi samjhega, jab ke wo door ke rishtedar ho halanke wo qareeb me hi kyun na rehte ho.
3) Har qism ka rishta qiyamat ke din, insaan ke samne laya jayega aur wo uss shaks ke haq me gawahi dega ke uss ne rishta rakha tha, agar waqay me rishaton ka khayal rakhta tha.
4) Aur uss shaks ke khilaf gawahi dega agar wo rishtedari khayam nahi rakhi thi.[54]
Abu Lahab ka finally kya huwa? uski family ka kya huwa?
Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki family aaj 1450 saal baad bhi hai, aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki family say hi Imam-e-Mehdi aayenge
[1] Umm Jamil - Wikipedia, Ibn Ishaq/Guillaume pp. 161-162.
[2] Al Quran, Surah Bani Israeel, Chapter 17: Verse 45
[3] Commentaries for 111.4 (quranx.com) IbnKathir, Maudoodi and other references
[4] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Pages 85-87
[5] Narrated Jundub bin Sufyan: Once Allah's Messenger (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) became sick and could not offer his night prayer (Tahajjud) for two or three nights. Then a lady (the wife of Abu Lahab) came and said, "O Muhammad! I think that your Satan has forsaken you, for I have not seen him with you for two or three nights!" On that Allah revealed: 'By the fore-noon, and by the night when it darkens, your Lord (O Muhammad) has neither forsaken you, nor hated you.' (93.1-3)
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ يُونُسَ، حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرٌ، حَدَّثَنَا الأَسْوَدُ بْنُ قَيْسٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ جُنْدُبَ بْنَ سُفْيَانَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ اشْتَكَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَلَمْ يَقُمْ لَيْلَتَيْنِ أَوْ ثَلاَثًا، فَجَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ فَقَالَتْ يَا مُحَمَّدُ إِنِّي لأَرْجُو أَنْ يَكُونَ شَيْطَانُكَ قَدْ تَرَكَكَ، لَمْ أَرَهُ قَرِبَكَ مُنْذُ لَيْلَتَيْنِ أَوْ ثَلاَثًا. فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ {وَالضُّحَى * وَاللَّيْلِ إِذَا سَجَى * مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَى}
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 4950
In-book reference : Book 65, Hadith 472
USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 6, Book 60, Hadith 475
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:4950
[6] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page 106
[7] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page xxx
[8] Martin Lings, Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) His Life Based on the Earliest Sources, Inner Traditions, Page 90
[9] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page xxx
[10] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page xxx
[11] Martin Lings, Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) His Life Based on the Earliest Sources, Inner Traditions, Page 92
[12] Martin Lings, Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) His Life Based on the Earliest Sources, Inner Traditions, Page 94
[13] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page xxx
[14] Martin Lings, Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) His Life Based on the Earliest Sources, Inner Traditions, Page 100
[15] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page xxx
[16] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Summary from many pages
[17] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page xxx
[18] Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum [The Sealed Nectar], Dar-us-Salam Publications, Page xxx
[19] Martin Lings, Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) His Life Based on the Earliest Sources, Inner Traditions, Page 143
[20] Martin Lings, Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) His Life Based on the Earliest Sources, Inner Traditions, Page 157
[21] Wikipedia, Abu Lahab, Ibn Ishaq/Guillaume p. 310
[22] Narrated Um Habiba: (daughter of Abu Sufyan) I said, "O Allah's Messenger (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ)! Marry my sister. the daughter of Abu Sufyan." The Prophet (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) said, "Do you like that?" I replied, "Yes, for even now I am not your only wife and I like that my sister should share the good with me." The Prophet (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) said, "But that is not lawful for me." I said, We have heard that you want to marry the daughter of Abu Salama." He said, "(You mean) the daughter of Um Salama?" I said, "Yes." He said, "Even if she were not my step-daughter, she would be unlawful for me to marry as she is my foster niece. I and Abu Salama were suckled by Thuwaiba. So you should not present to me your daughters or your sisters (in marriage)." Narrated 'Urwa: Thuwaiba was the freed slave girl of Abu Lahb whom he had manumitted, and then she suckled the Prophet. When Abu Lahb died, one of his relatives saw him in a dream in a very bad state and asked him, "What have you encountered?" Abu Lahb said, "I have not found any rest since I left you, except that I have been given water to drink in this (the space between his thumb and other fingers) and that is because of my manumitting Thuwaiba."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5101
In-book reference : Book 67, Hadith 39
USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 38
[25] https://www.forbes.com/sites/bryanrobinson/2020/09/05/grappling-with-the-rise-of-work-related-suicide-during-the-pandemic-how-to-support-yourself-and-fellow-coworkers/?sh=65399be148d2
[27] https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/work/workplace-stress-can-lead-to-depression-and-death-says-study/articleshow/75981186.cms
[28] [ وأن يظهرَ موتُ الفجأةِ [ في حديثِ أشراطِ السَّاعةِ ] ]
الراوي : - | المحدث : الألباني | المصدر : السلسلة الصحيحة
الصفحة أو الرقم : 5/370 | خلاصة حكم المحدث : هذه الزيادة في مرتبة الحسن إن شاء الله
[29]O my servants who believe! My earth is certainly vast, so serve Me alone. (Al Quran - 29:56)
[30]So when they reach (the end of) their term, then either hold them in a recognised (good manner) or separate them in a recognised (good manner). And call to witness two just men from among you and establish (correct) evidence for (the sake of) Allah. With that is advised he who believes in Allah and the period hereafter, and whoever fears Allah He will make for him a way out (Surah At Talaq 65:02)
and He will provide him from a place unthought of. And whoever puts his trust in Allah, then He is sufficient for him. Allah certainly fulfils His command, Allah has indeed made a program for everything. (Surah At Talaq 65:03)
[31]Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Were the son of Adam to flee from his provision as he flees from death, his provision would surely reach him just as death will reach him.”
Source: Ḥilyat al-Awliyā’ 7/90
Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani
عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَوْ أَنَّ ابْنَ آدَمَ هَرَبَ مِنْ رِزْقِهِ كَمَا يَهْرُبُ مِنَ الْمَوْتِ لَأَدْرَكَهُ رِزْقُهُ كَمَا يُدْرِكُهُ الْمَوْتُ
7/90 حلية الأولياء وطبقات الأصفياء
5240 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث حسن في صحيح الجامع
[32] Aisha reported: I was on a camel that was misbehaving, so I started to beat it. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said to me, “You must be gentle. Verily, gentleness is not in anything but that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything but that it disgraces it.”
Source: Musnad Aḥmad 24417, Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى عَنْهَا أَنَّهُ سَمِعَهَا تَقُولُ كُنْتُ عَلَى بَعِيرٍ صَعْبٍ فَجَعَلْتُ أَضْرِبُهُ فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَيْكِ بِالرِّفْقِ فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَا يَكُونُ فِي شَيْءٍ إِلَّا زَانَهُ وَلَا يُنْزَعُ مِنْ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا شَانَهُ
مسند أحمد باقي مسند الأنصار 24417
[33] If they do not believe in this statement, then perhaps you will kill yourself with grief, sorrowing after them (Surah Al Kahf, 18:06)
[34]And do not let their speech grieve you, certainly the might is totally Allah’s, He is the Hearing, the knowing (Surah Al Younus 10:65)
[35] ROBERT EMERY, PROFESSOR OF PSYCHOLOGY; DIRECTOR OF CENTER FOR CHILDREN, FAMILIES AND THE LAW - https://psychology.as.virginia.edu/people/profile/ree
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[38] Aisha reported: I was on a camel that was misbehaving, so I started to beat it. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said to me, “You must be gentle. Verily, gentleness is not in anything but that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything but that it disgraces it.”
Source: Musnad Aḥmad 24417, Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى عَنْهَا أَنَّهُ سَمِعَهَا تَقُولُ كُنْتُ عَلَى بَعِيرٍ صَعْبٍ فَجَعَلْتُ أَضْرِبُهُ فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَيْكِ بِالرِّفْقِ فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَا يَكُونُ فِي شَيْءٍ إِلَّا زَانَهُ وَلَا يُنْزَعُ مِنْ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا شَانَهُ
مسند أحمد باقي مسند الأنصار 24417
[39] Anas b. Malik said : The Messenger of Allah (May peace be upon him) used to come to visit us. I had a younger brother who was called Abu ‘Umair by Kunyah (surname). He had a sparrow with which he played, but it died. So one day the prophet (May peace be upon him) came to see him and saw him grieved. He asked: What is the matter with him? The people replied: His sparrow has died. He then said: Abu ‘Umair! What has happened to the little sparrow?
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، حَدَّثَنَا ثَابِتٌ، عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ، قَالَ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَدْخُلُ عَلَيْنَا وَلِي أَخٌ صَغِيرٌ يُكْنَى أَبَا عُمَيْرٍ وَكَانَ لَهُ نُغَرٌ يَلْعَبُ بِهِ فَمَاتَ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ فَرَآهُ حَزِينًا فَقَالَ " مَا شَأْنُهُ " . قَالُوا مَاتَ نُغَرُهُ فَقَالَ " يَا أَبَا عُمَيْرٍ مَا فَعَلَ النُّغَيْرُ " .
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani) صحيح (الألباني) حكم :
Reference : Sunan Abi Dawud 4969
In-book reference : Book 43, Hadith 197
English translation : Book 42, Hadith 4951
[42] Al Quran, Surah Muhammad, Chapter 47: Verse 22