Tafseer Surah Al-Masad Part 2

Tafseer Surah al-Masad Part 2


Bismillah Alhamdulillah was salaatu was salaamu ala rasoolillah

Rabbish sharah li sadri wa yassirli amri wahlul uqdatam min lisaani wa yafqahu qauli

As Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Pichle Dars me humne Surah Al-Masad ki tafseer ka pehla hissa suna, aur aaj bhi Surah Al-Masad ko aagay samajhne ki koshish karenge, aaj ke session me Surah nazil hone ke baad ke waqiyat, pichle dars me humne kuch sawal kiye the, unn ke jawabat, aur kuch scientific facts samajhne ki koshish karenge:

Surah ke Nazil hone ke baad ke waqiyat

Ibn Ishaq apni kitab Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki seerat me likhte hain ke, Umm Jamil ne jab suna ke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) Tabbat yada Abi Lahabin wa Tabb ke zariye peshangoi kar rahe hain Umm Jamil ke baare me aur uss ke miya Abu Lahab ke baare me, to wo ek pathar ka mussal le kar Kaba ki taraf gayi jahan Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) – Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ke sath baithe the. Ibn Kahtir ne apni tafseer me ye detail di ke, jab Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ne Umm Jamil ko Badbadate huwe aate dekha, to aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se farmaya ke Umm Jamil aa rahi hai aur mujhe dar hai ke wo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko dekh legi, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke wo mujhe nahi dekh payegi. Phir aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne Quran ki Surah Bani Israeel ki, ye ayat tilawat ki;

وَإِذَا قَرَأْتَ الْقُرءَانَ جَعَلْنَا بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَ الَّذِينَ لاَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِالاٌّخِرَةِ حِجَابًا مَّسْتُورًا

Aur jab aap Quran parrhte hain, to hum aap ke aur unn logon ke beech me, jo aakhirat par iman nahi rakhte, ek makhfi (hidden) parda daal dete hain.

Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) aagay farmate hain ke, wo aayi aur hamare samne khadi ho gayee aur Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) par Umm Jamil ki tawajjoh nahi gayi, uss ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko nahi dekha aur wo Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) se poochti hai ke, “Maine suna hai ke wo (yani aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ)) mujh par tanziya shayari (defamatory poetry) kar rahe hain, (mujhe badnaam kar rahe hain). Agar wo mujhe mil jaye, to ye patthar se moh phorrh dungi” Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ne Umm Jamil se kaha ke, Kaaba ke Rabb ki qasam aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) tumhare baare me aise ashaar nahi kahe aur tum ko badnaam nahi kiya (Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه) ka matlab ye tha ke Tabbat yada jo hai wo Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ka nahi Allah ka kalam hai) phir uss ne kuch ashar kahe aur wahan se chali gayi, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko notice kiye baghair.

Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki dawat-o-tableegh ko kuch hi mahine huwe the ke Hajj ka mahina aa gaya, aur Quraish pareshan the ke, hujjaj ko kaise roke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko sunne se, wo uski planning me lag gaye aur ye tai paya ke, sab hajion ko ek hi baat kahenge ke, “Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ek bahot hi powerful jadugar hai, jo ek bete ko baap se alag kar dega, ek bhai ko doosre bhai se alag kar dega, biwi ko miya se juda kar dega aur qabeele ko todh dega. Abu Lahab, Islam ka dushman ban kar samne aya, aur Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke piche piche rehta aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) jis se bhi milte, Abu Lahab cheekh kar kehta ke wo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki baat na sune, kyunki wo jhoote hain, aur apne deen se phir gaye hain. Naoozu billah min zalik. Beher haal aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne logon par kuch asar chhorha aur chand log islam qabool kare.

Imam Bukhari ne apni kitab Sahih al-Bukhari me ye hadith record kiya hai, ke ek waqt Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) bimar huwe aur 2-3 raat ki ibadat chhoot gayi. Abu Lahab ki biwi – Umm Jamil ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se kaha ke “Aye Muhammad, Mera khayal hai ke, tumhare shaitan ne tumhein chhor diya hai, kyun ke do-teen dino se maine usse tumhare saath nahi dekha.” Iss par Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ye ayatein nazil farmayi;

وَالضُّحَى * وَاللَّيْلِ إِذَا سَجَى * مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَى‏

Suraj ki roshni ki qasam, aur raat ki tareeki ki (yani raat ke andhere ki qasam) jab wo sukoon se chha jaye, ke Aye Nabi (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ)! aap ke paalne wale malik ne, na aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko chhorrha hai aur na aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se naraz huwa.

Ye dushmani yahan khatam nahi huwi, Abu Lahab ka beta Utaibah ne, ek baar Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki beizzati ki, kaha ke wo Quran par Iman nahi lata, aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke kapde phaad diye, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) par thooka. Iss par aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne dua ki, “Aye Allah! apna ek kutta iss par laga de” Sheikh Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri apni kitab Ar-Raheeq Al-Maktoum me likhte hain, ke Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne iss dua ko qabool kar li aur jab Utaibah apne doston ke saath Syria ke safar par tha, aur Az-Zarqa nami ek maqam par wo ruke to wahan ek Sher aya aur Utaibah ki taraf lapka. Utaibah ko Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki wo dua yaad aa gayee, aur wo kehne laga, Hai Afsos! Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne jo dua ki wo puri hogi, aur ye sher mujhe kha jayega. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) Makkah me rehte huwe mujhe yahan Syria me qatl kar diya. Wo sher bijli ki tarah aya aur Utaibah ko khatam kar diya.

Abu Talib, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki safety ko lekar bohot pareshan rehte aur unn ka ye dar sahih tha kyun ke, mushrikeen-e-makkah ne ek mansooba banaya, plan kiya Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ka qatl karne ka aur Abu Talib Bani Hashim aur Bani Al-Muttalib ko jama karke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki hifazat karne aur unn ko defend karne ki takeed karte aur tamam qabile wale iss ko maan lete hain, siway Abu Lahab ke, jo uss qatl ke plan ka hissedaar tha.

Martin Lings – jo Islam qabool karne ke baad Abu Bakr Sirajuddin ho gaye, wo apni kitab Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) me likhte hain ke, jab Umar (رضي الله عنه) ne Islam qabool kiya, uss ke baad Musalmaan khule aam namaz ada karne lage, Umar (رضي الله عنه) aur Hamza (رضي الله عنه) Musalmano ko lekar Kaba me namaz parrhte, aise maukhon par Makkah ke sardar inn logon se door rehte, ye unn ki izzat ka sawal tha, ke musalman namaz parrhe aur wo wahan khade dekhte rahe. Aur unn ko pata tha ke agar wo aiteraz karte to phir Umar (رضي الله عنه) kisi bhi cheez se baaz aane wale nahi hain. Iss ke bawajood, Umar (رضي الله عنه) ye na sonche ke unhone kuffar-e-makkah ko hara diya, Abu Jahl ke dabao daalne par kuffar-e-makkah ne ye faisla liya ke sab se behtar solution ye hai ke Hashim ke qabile ka boycott kar diya jaye. Abu Lahab ko chhorh kar tamam qabile wale Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko protect karne aur support karne ke liye tayyar the. Ek document banaya gaya, jiss me ye likha tha ke, koi bhi Banu Hashim qabile ke mard ya aurat se shadi nahi karega, koi dealing nahi hogi, na koi cheez bechi ya khareedi jayegi, ye boycott uss waqt tak rahega, jab tak ke Banu Hashim ka qabila Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko ghair qanooni qarar de kar ban na karde ya jab tak ke aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) nabuwat ka daawa chhorrh na de. Quraish ke 40 sardaron ne iss document par apni mohr lagai ya sign kiya, tasleem kiya, halanke sab iss ke haq me na the. Qabila al-Muttalib apne chacha zaad bhaiyon ko chhorha nahi to wo bhi iss ban me shamil kar diye gaye. Aur iss document ko kaba ke andar deewar par latka diya gaya.

Ye ban, ye boycott 3 saal tak chala, bohot hi sakht ghareebi ka alam tha, khane ki qillat ho gayi, aur Quraish makkah me jo bhi khana aata wo saara ka saara khareed lete, taakay ye Banu Hashim ke qabile tak na pahunche. Abu Talib Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki jaan ke liye bahut hi zyada fikar mand rehte the, raat hoti to Abu Talib Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se kehte ke wo unn ki jagah par so jaye, aur jab sab so jaate to Abu Talib aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko apne sone ki jagah badalne ka hukum dete, iss dar se ke koi dhoke se aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko neend me na qatal kar de.

Makkah ke kuch log iss boycott ko ab bardasht nahi kar pa rahe the, aur uss ke khilaf awaz utthaye aur wahi ke zariye aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko khabar di jaati ke wo boycott wala document ko cheentiyon ne kha liya, siway unn hisson ke jahan Allah ka naam likha tha, Abu Talib ye khabar le kar Kabatullah me aate hain aur logon ko batate hain, aur ye boycott khatam ho jata hai. Ibn Ishaq ki seerat ke hisab se Surah al-Masad yahan nazil huwa, lekin jaisa ke humne pichle dars me bataya, aur Bukhari, Muslim aur deegar ahadith ko jama karke, ke ye pehle nazil ho chuki thi.

Boycott khatam hone par Makkah me sukoon ka mahol ho gaya, aur musalmano ko pareshan karna fil waqt ruk gaya. Aur iss mamele ki exaggerated reports, Abyssinia pahunch gayi jahan par pehli hijrat ke baad musalman reh rahe the, jiss ko sunte hi, kuch log Makkah wapas aane ki tayyari me lag gaye, aur tamam log wapas aa gaye siway Jafar aur Ubaydullah ibn Jahash (رضی اللہ عنھما) ke. Wapas aane wale khafile me Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki beti Ruqayya aur damad Uthman-e-Ghani (رضی اللہ عنھما) the. Abu Salamah aur Umm Salama (رضی اللہ عنھما) jinn ka taaluq Makhzum qabile se tha, aur unhe yaqeen tha ke apne qabile se protection nahi milega, Abu Salama ne apne mamu Abu Talib ko protection ki request bheji aur wo fauran tayyar ho gaye. Makhzum ke qabile wale sakht naraz huwe ke Abu Talib ne aisa kyun kiya, to unhone kaha ke, ye meri behen ka beta hai, agar main uss ki hifazat nahi kar saka to Muhammad (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki kaise karoonga. Iss mauqe par Abu Lahab ne apne bhai Abu Talib ki himayat ki, aur unn ke support me khada ho gaya. Makhzum qabile walon ko pata tha ke, Abu Lahab – Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke khilaaf unn ka pakka dost hai aur wo Abu Lahab ko naraz nahi karna chahte the. Abu Lahab iss maukhe par apne qabile ka saath iss liye bhi diya kyun ke uss ko pata tha ke Abu Talib ke baad wohi qabile ka sardar banne wala hai – to ussne apne qabile walon ki taraf daari ki, sirf iss wajah se. Aur ye bhi ho sakta hai ke Abu Lahab ab ye samajh gaya tha ke Abu Talib zyada din zinda rehne wale nahi hai.

Boycott khatam hone ke 6 mahine baad Abu Talib ki tabiyyat kharab ho jati hai aur unn ka inteqal ho jata hai, aur Abu Lahab Banu Hashim Qabile ka sardar ban jata hai, lekin Abu Lahab ne apne bhatije (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko jo tahaffuz diya, jo protection diya wo mehaz baraye naam tha. Aur jo bad-salooki aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke saath ho rahi thi wo pehle kabhi nahi huwi, tarah tarah se aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko sataya ja raha tha. Abu Talib ke inteqal ke 2 mahine baad aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki zaujah Khadijah (رضی اللہ عنھا) ka inteqal ho jata hai.

Ye tamam museebaton ke bawajood, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) tableegh-e-deen nahi chhore.

Aakhir Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko qatal karne ka plan banta hai aur bait-an-nadwa, jo ke parliament tha Quraish ka, jahan par har qabile se ek shaks ko chuna jata hai, unn 11 logon me Abu Lahab bhi shamil hota hai, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko qatal karne walon me. Zyada detail me jaane ka mauqa nahi hai, Safiur Rahman al-Mubarakpuri apni kitab Ar Raheeq Al Maktoum me likhte hain ke ye 11 log aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke ghar ko gher lete hain raat ke andhere me, aur plan ke mutabiq subah hote hi aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko qatal kar denge. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ka aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko Madina hijrat karne ka hukum hota hai, aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) Ali (رضی اللہ عنہ) ko apne bistar par sone ka hukum dete hain aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki chadar odh kar. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) apne ghar se bahar aate hain aur qatilon par mutthi bhar khaak, dust daal dete hain Surah Yaseen ki ye ayat parrhte huwe;

وَجَعَلْنَا مِنْ بَيْنِ أَيْدِيهِمْ سَدًّا وَمِنْ خَلْفِهِمْ سَدًّا فَأَغْشَيْنَاهُمْ فَهُمْ لَا يُبْصِرُونَ

Aur humne unn ke aagay bhi deewar khadi kar di aur unn ke peeche bhi deewar khadi kar di, phir unn par parda daal diya, to ye dekh nahi sakte.

Abu Lahab aur unn ke qatil saathi jo maukhe ka intezaar kar rahe the, ussi waqt unn ko kisi ne khabar di ke Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) to chale gaye. Jab wo andar gaye to Ali (رضی اللہ عنہ) ko dekh kar pareshan ho gaye. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) seedhe Abu Bakr (رضی اللہ عنہ) ke ghar ko jaate hain aur wo dono Madina Hijrat karte hain, Quraish ki tamam na kaam koshishon ke bawajood, wo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ka qatal nahi kar paye.

Jung-e-Badr hoti hai jiss me Makkah ke tamam sardaar shamil hote hain, siway Abu Lahab ke, wo apni jagah par Abu Jahl ke bhai ko bhej deta hai, kyun ke uss ne Abu Lahab se qarz liya tha aur ada nahi kar pa raha tha. Wo shaks iss shart par jung me hissa lene ke liye razi ho jata hai, kyun ke Abu Lahab ne kaha ke uss ka poora qarz wo maaf kar dega. Kayee Makkah ke sardar Jung-e-Badr me maare jaate hain. Jung ke baad Makkah wapas aane walon me sab se pehle Abu Sufiyan tha, jo abhi tak Islam nahi qabool kiya tha. Badr ki haar ne Abu Sufiyan ko hila diya tha, unn ko sab se pehla khayal ye aya ke wo Kaaba ki ziyarat karein, aur ittefaq se Abu Lahab bhi wahin baittha tha zamzam ke khaime me. Abu Lahab ne Abu Sufiyan ko awaz di ke wo aye aur jung ke halat bataye, Abu Sufiyan ne kaha ke,

“Mujhe itna hi kehna hai ke, humne dushman ka muqabala kiya aur apni peet pher kar bhaag aye, aur Musalmano ne ya to humein bhaga diya ya qaidi bana liya. Hum to apne logon par ilzaam bhi nahi laga sakte hain, kyun ke hamari fauj ne Musalmano ka to muqabila kiya hi, aur unn logon ka bhi muqabila kiya jo safed kapde pehne aur kaale ghodon par sawar the, jin par safed patches the (black horses with white patches) – jo ke aasman aur zameen ke beech me bhar gaye the. Aur ye logon ne tabahi ke siway – kuch na kiya, koi unn ke saamne khada nahi ho sakta tha”

Umm al-Fadl (رضی اللہ عنھا), jo aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki chachi aur al-Abbas ki biwi thi, wo bhi uss kheme ke kone par baitthi thi, aur unn ke saath chacha Abbas ke ghulam Abu Rafi bhi the, jo teer bana rahe the. Umm al-Fadl aur Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنھما) dono musalman ho gaye the, lekin wo apna Islam abhi tak kisi par zahir nahi kare the, aur ye log Abu Sufiyan ki baatein sun rahe the. Abu Rafi ye sunn kar ke, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) badar ki jung jeet gaye, aur safed kapde wale ghod sawaron ka waqiya sunn kar, apni khushi rok na paye aur unn ke muhn se ye nikal gaya; “ke wo to farishte the”. Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنہ) ki ye khushi dekh kar Abu Lahab par ghussa cha gaya aur wo Abu Rafi ke chehre par mukka maarte huwe zameen par gira deta hai, Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنہ) apne aap ko bacha nahi paye, aur Abu Lahab apna ghutna unn par rakh deta hai aur baar baar unn ko peet-ta hai. Umm al-Fadl (رضی اللہ عنھا) ye dekh kar ke wo Abu Rafi (رضی اللہ عنہ) ko maar dega, wahan pade kheme ki lakdi ko uttha kar Abu Lahab ke sar par poori taqat ke sath maar deti hain. Iss waar se Abu Lahab ka sar phat jata hai, aur wo zakhm itna ghera tha ke wo sadh jaata hai, antibiotics to thi nahi uss zamane me, Abu Lahab ka jism ek hafte me phodon se bhar jaata hai aur wo mar jata hai.

Abu Lahab ke zakham se jo badboo aa rahi thi, uss ki wajah se mayyat ke qareeb koi nahi ja raha tha. Uss ke ghar walon ne murda naash ko sadhte huwe chhorrh diya, jab 2-3 din guzar gaye aur badboo mohalle me phail gayi to padosiyon ke dabao me aakar Abu Lahab ke ghar walon ne ghulamo ka intezam kiya uss ki mayyat ko wahan se nikal kar, dafnaye. Makkah ke bahar, door se mayyat par pani dala gaya, aur lambi lakdiyon se qabar me dhakel diya gaya, aur door se patthar phenk kar dafan kiya gaya.

Pichle dars me humne ye hadith suni thi ke, Abu Lahab ne Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki paidaish par thuwaiba ko hath ke ishare se azad kiya. Fath al-Bari jo Sahih al-Bukhari ki sharah hai, Imam Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani iss hadith ke explanation me likhte hain ke, Abu Lahab ke inteqal ke baad, Ibn Abbas ne unn ko khwab me bohot hi bure haal me dekha, aur poocha ke aap ko kya mila, hume chhorrh kar jaane ke baad? Abu Lahab unn ko jawab deta hai ke, mujhe aram nahi mila siway iss ke, ke peer ke din azab me kami hoti hai aur mujhe pani diya jata hai – unke anghote aur doosre ungliyon ke beech me. Kyun ke peer ke din aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) paida huwe aur jab thuwaiba ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki paidaish ki khush khabri mujhe di to maine apne haath ke ishare se uss ko azad kar diya tha. Iss liye Abu Lahab ko azab me ye rahat mil rahi hai.

Abu Lahab ki biwi ka inteqaal kab aur kaise huwa ye humein pata nahi hai, do versions mile, lekin bina koi reference ke:

  • Pehla reference ek website par note ki shakal me mila ke, Umm Jamil ki maut gale me rassi parrh kar accident se maut ho gayi
  • Farishte uss ke gale me rassi daal kar kheenchne se maut ho gayi

Abu Lahab ke bade bete Utba, Fatah Makkah ke baad Islam qabool kar lete hain. Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne khushi se unn ka isteqbaal kiya, welcome kiya aur wo ek Ache musalman ban kar zindagi guzare. Aur Abu Lahab ki beti Durrah bhi Islam qabool karti hai aur wo ahadith jama karti hain aur logon ko sikhati hain. Durrah (رضی اللہ عنھا) ki ek hadith jise Imam Ahmed apni Musnad me jama kiya hai ke; “Ek shaks ne aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se poocha ke insano me sab se behtreen kaun hai? aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne jawab diya ke, “Insano me sab se behtar wo hai jo sab se zyada ilm hasil kare, jo sab se zyada Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) se darta ho, yani taqwe wala ho, jo sab se zyada neki karne ki dawat deta ho, aur sab se zyada gunahon se bachne ka hukum deta ho, aur jo sab se zyada sila rahmi karta ho.”

Iss waqiye ki ek khaas baat note karna ye hai ke, ye jo peshangoi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne Tabbat yada Abi Lahabin wa Tabb ki shakal me ki, agar Abu Lahab aur Umm Jamil Islam qabool kar lete to Quran ghalat ho jaata, wo peshangoi khatam ho jaati aur Abu Lahab aur Umm Jamil kamiyaab ho jaate. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki dawat-o-tableegh ko jhoota ya ghalat sabit karne ke liye Abu Lahab aisa kar sakta tha, only to prove Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) wrong, lekin – ye iss baat ka saboot hai ke iss challenge ke bawajood Abu Lahab Islam qabool nahi kiya. Islam ke aane ke baad 12 saal tak zinda raha aur Quran ki peshangoi poori huwi. Ye Quran ka challenge 10 saal tak Abu Lahab aur Umm Jamil ke saamne tha, aur iss period me Abu Lahab ke kayee sathi Islam qabool kare aur Abu Lahab aur uss ki biwi iss peshangoi ko ghalat sabit nahi kar paye. Ye iss baat ka saboot hai ke Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) hamare Rabb – hamare paalne wale malik hain, Quran sachchi hai aur Allah ka kalam hai, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) – Allah ke nabi hain aur aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne Quran ko hum tak pahuncha diya.

Ye tha Abu Lahab ka sara waqiya, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) iss waqiye ko hamare dilon me basa de, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki mohabbat jaise hamare dilon me honi chahiye, waisi izzat aur mohabbat hamare dilon me bhar de, aur sunnaton par waise hi amal karwale ya Allah jaisa ke aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki sunnaton par amal karne ka haq hai, kehne wale ke liye aur sunne walon ke liye iss dua ko Allah paak qabool farmaye. Har shaks jo ye sunn raha hai, Apne apne amal ka jaiza le aur koshish kare amal karne ki.

Humein kya karna hai

Ab ye doosra section, Humein kya karna hai me, hum ye dekhenge ke, jab Abu Lahab jaise log hamare kaam karne ki jagah me, offices me, society me aur ghar me ho to pressure kaise banta aur hum uss se kaise deal karenge;

1. Psychological Pressures and Psychiatric treatment

Islam me positivity hai, 3 din tak hi gham manao bole, mayoosi kufr hai bole aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ)

The idea and space Abu Lahab occupies could be there in our minds too, we need to get out of that space, if we ourselves are the ones occupying such ideas and space and harming others.

Ye problems Musalmano me aa gaye hain, aur treatment is zaroorat hai, kyun ke maloom hi nahi ke humein treatment ki zaroorat hai. Ab agar koi ye bole ke bhai, Psychiatrist ke paas bata lo, to kahenge ke main pagal nahi hoon. Samajh nahi rahe hain ke iss se family par, khandan par aur society par kya asar ho raha hai.

Psychological pressures ko teen major hisson mein ya categories mein divide kiya ja sakta hai

  1. Pehla hissa – hum jahan kaam karte hain wahan ka pressure hota hai
  2. Doosra hiss – hamare ghar se bahar khandan ki wajah se pressure hota hai aur
  3. Teesra hissa – hamare gharon me, maa-baap aur bachon ke beech pressure hota hai

1.1. Pehla hissa – hum jahan kaam karte hain wahan ka pressure hota hai

  1. ‘Work pressure’ kya hai humne, suna bhi hai aur hum mein se aksar ne, isse bardasht kiya bhi hai aur kar bhi rahe hain.
  2. Agar ye ‘work pressure’ ek aad bar aaye to koi masla nahi hai, lekin agar ye mustaqil ya continuous ho to takleef de ban jata hai.
  3. Ye work pressure kisi bhi wajah se ho sakta hai,
    1. agar kaam barabar distribute nahi hai to bhi ho sakta hai,
    2. kisi aur tarikhe ka mismanagement hai to ho sakta hai,
    3. ghair akhlaqi mahool hai, jis mein har baat per danta ja raha hai
    4. meetings mein mazaq udaya jata hai ya beizzati ki jati ho to bhi ye pressure ban jata hai
    5. chahe wo company aapko kitna hi accha ‘pay’ karti ho
  4. Kuch log itne majboor hote hain,
    1. jaise ke behan ki shadi hai,
    2. walid ka operation hai,
    3. bacchon ki padai chal rahi hai, waghaira, waghaira,
    4. unke ke pass kabhi itna jama hi nahi hua ke wo doosra kam dekhle, ya koi aur naukri talash kar lein
  5. Ziyada tar dekha gaya hai ke owner’s ya jo senior position per hote hain, wo log chahte hain ke apne employees ya subordinates se unka khoon choos lein, kyun ke wo unhe salary de rahe hain.
  6. Yehi log Abu Lahab ka role aada karte hain ‘workplace’ ya kaam ki jagah per, jinki wajah se aam insan ki zindagi pressure mein aa jati hai, aur wo pressure itna badh jata hai ke log khud-kushi bhi kar lete hain.
  7. Forbes magazine ki 2020 ki report hai ke 46% ‘stress’ logon me, kaam ke pressure ki wajah se hai aur 28% apas ke masalon ki wajeh se khud-kushi (ya suicide) ho rahi hain, aur ye figure ‘50 year’ high per chala raha hai,
    1. Suicide ke mamele me report ye bhi batati hai ke mard 15 gunah ziyada iss ke shikar hai aurton ke ba-nisbat.
    2. Report mein aage bataye gaya ke zyada tar employees jo khud-khusi karte hain, unko mental health ya psychological disorder tha, jo ki address nahi huwa, yani ke ‘treatment’ nahi hua, jaise ke pichle hafte hum sun chuke hain ke kitne logon ko pata hi nahi ke unhe medical treatment ki zaroorat hai, bas andar-hi-andar ghut rahe hain.
  8. Covid ka period chal raha hai to CDC ka naam to suna hi hoga, (Center for Disease Control & Prevention), to inki survey ke hisab se work pressure ki wajah se depression ho raha hai jo ki aham wajah hai mazuri ki yani ke ‘disability’ ki (WHO ne bhi isse mana hai)
  9. Indiana University ke Erik Gonzalez-Mule ki ek study, ‘Journal for Applied Psychology’ mein publish huwi, jiss mein bataya gaya ke work pressure ki wajah se depression hota hai aur uss ke natije mein maut ho jati hai, aur inn dono mein yaqeeni taur par gehra taluq hai. Khaas taur per aise logon ke liye jo bardasht karne ki salahiyat nahi rekhte, wo suicide na bhi kare, to bhi stress ki wajah se maut ho rahi hai, bas Allah reham kare.
  10. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke Qayamat ke kareeb, achanak maut ke waqiye sunne mein aayenge, to aisa mahsoos hota hai ke shayad ye ‘psychological pressure’ hi hai jiski wajah se achanak maut ke waqiyat sunne me aa rahe hain. Acche khase the, koi bimari nahi thi, bas kuch aisa huwa ke ‘heart attack’ huwa aur khatam ho gaye. Shayad andar-hi-andar ghut rahe the, lekin kabhi kisi se apni kaifiyat batai nahi, bas Allah Reham kare (aameen).
  11. To ab aise masalon ko kaise hal kiya jaye?
    1. Sab se pehle to Quran aur Hadith ka ilm hona chahiye, har masale ka hal yaqeenan yahan par hai.
    2. Quran mein Surah Ankabut ki 56 ayat me aaya hai ke Allah ki zameen bahut wasi hai, to iss mein phel jaiyye, hijrat kariye, aap nikliye to sahi, phir dekhiye, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) kaise intezam karta hai.
    3. Surah Tallaq ki doosri ayat mein aata hai ke jo koi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ka taqwa ikhtiyar karega Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) usse aisi jagah se rizq dega ki wo soch bhi nahi sakta aur teesri aayat mein aata hai Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) uske liye koi (na koi) rasta nikal dega.
    4. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne rizk ka zimma apne uper le liya hai, aur wo Razzak hain, Hilyatul Auliya ki ek hadith jis ko Sheikh Albani ne Hasan kaha, jiss me Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hain insan ka rizk uske peeche-peeche waise hi aata hai jaise ke uski maut.
    5. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hain ke Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ki badi ajeeb rehmat hai ke shirk karne walon ko bhi rizk dete hain, aur hum log rizk ke liye pareshan hain.
    6. Quran me ek formula hai success ka, aap shukr aada kijiye, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) aapko aur dega, sab pareshan hai salary bas nahi ho rahi hai, kabhi shukr ada karke dekha, try kijiye, TV par bohot aate hain – azmooda formula hai bolkar, ye azmooda formula hai, Quran ka hai.
    7. Apne requirements ko ghair zaroori mat badhaye, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hain ke jiske paas ek din ka khana hai uske paas duniya jahan ki sari daulat hai
    8. Aur bohot saare references diye ja sakte hain Quran aur Hadith se.
  12. Ye sari batein to apne liye ho gayi lekin Abu Lahab jaise logon ka kya?
    1. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) farmate hai zalim ki madad kijiye, kaisay? Usse zulm karne se rokiye, apni istetaat ke hisab se.
    2. Agar aap oonche ohde per hain aur aapki company afford kar sakti hai to apne subordinated ke liye mental examinations conduct karwaiyye, aur jisko zaroorat hai ilaj karwaiye.
    3. Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke jahan narmi ya gentleness hoti hai wahan har cheez khoobsurat hojati hai jahan ye nahi hoti wahan sari cheezein bad surat ho jati hain, to apni istetaat ke hisab se apne atraaf narmi ka mahol banaiye.
    4. Aur atraaf ke log bhi iss narmi ko kamzori na samjhein, aur misuse na karen, jahan ghalat kaam log karte hain phir wahan sakhti aa hi jaati hai.
    5. sirf pressure aur pressure se kaam nahi chalta, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) jahan dozak se dara rahe hain wahan jannat ki basharat bhi de rahe hain, ye balance khayam kijiye, dimaghi tawazun, yani ke mental balance theek rahega to, sukoon rahega to productivity badegi, to automatic profit bhi badega, ye hi bottom line hai aur issi ko samajhne ki zaroorat hai,
  13. Aisa nahi hai ke sare log ya sari companies ek jaisi hoti hain, acche log bhi hain, aur acchi companies bhi hoti hain.
  14. Ek taraf hum log hain jo apne work related gham-o-fikr mein doobe hue hain, Kya Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko work related pressure tha?
  15. Deen ki tableegh me jo waqt lagta hai, iss ka hisab Quran ki Surah Muzammil ki 7wi ayat me diya gaya hai ke;

إِنَّ لَكَ فِى ٱلنَّهَارِ سَبْحًۭا طَوِيلًۭا

Din ke waqt aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko lambi masroofiyat rahti hai. To Quran certificate de raha hai ke ye kaam masroofiyat wala kaam hai. Phir;

  1. Quran me Surah Kahf ki 6 ayat me Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) farmate hain;

فَلَعَلَّكَ بَـٰخِعٌۭ نَّفْسَكَ عَلَىٰٓ ءَاثَـٰرِهِمْ إِن لَّمْ يُؤْمِنُوا۟ بِهَـٰذَا ٱلْحَدِيثِ أَسَفًا

“Aye Nabi (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) agar ye iss kalam par iman nahi laye to shayed aap inn ke peeche gham me apne aap ko halak kar denge” aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko gham hota tha ke ye log iman nahi la rahe hain, ye dozaq ki aag me jalenge to kaisa hoga, ye samajh nahi rahe hain.

  1. Allah ke deen ki tableegh karna, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke liye work related pressure hi tha logon ki batein chubhti thi, Quran me Surah Younus ki 65 ayat me Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) farmate hain ke

وَلَا يَحْزُنكَ قَوْلُهُمْ ۘ إِنَّ ٱلْعِزَّةَ لِلَّهِ جَمِيعًا ۚ هُوَ ٱلسَّمِيعُ ٱلْعَلِيمُ

“Aye Nabi (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) inn logon ki batein aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ko ghamgeen na karde, kyun ke izzat to poori ki poori Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ke liye hai, aur wo sunne wala aur ilm rakhne wala hai.”

  1. To ye fark hai, hum me aur Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ), aap ko gham hota tha, aur humein ghussa ata hai.

1.2. Doosra hissa – Immediate Family ke bahar ka mamla yani Khandan ka maamla

  1. Quran me Surah al-Baqarah ki 133 ayat me Yaqub (عليه السلام) apni maut ke waqt, apne bachon ko jama karke puchha ke, tum mere baad kis ki ibadat karoge? Yani Yaqub (عليه السلام) apnay bachon se pooch rahe hain ke kya tumhe maloom hai apne family ‘values’ ya hamare khandan ka ‘mission statement’ kya hai? Unhon apni zindagi me bachon ki tarbiyat ki, unhe deen-e-Islam sikhaya aur marne se pehle ye sawal kiya. Al Hamdulillah unka jawab positive tha ke, hum to aap ke Ilaha ki ibadat karenge, jo ke aap ke baap dada ka Ilaha hai, Ibrahim ka, Ismail ka aur Ishaq ka (عَلَيْهِمُ ٱلسَّلَامُ). Ibrahim (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) ki family me nabuwwat chali to inn ki family ka mission ek Allah ki ibadat karna tha.
  2. to pata chala ke aisay khandan hote hain jin ki family ka ek mission hota hai, business family hai, apne bachchon ko aisa train karte hain ke unn ke business 1,000 saal se zayada se chal rahe hain, aaj bhi chal rahe hain. Jo sab se purani company hai wo Japan me hai – Lekin aise families ka kya haal hai, kya ye log khush hain?
  3. to aisay khandano per Ek research huwi jiske paas “mission statements” ya “vision statements” hote hain, inn logon se poocha gaya ke, kya aap logon ke bacche aapke iss mission statement mein se jo sab se aham statement hai, kya wo usko pehchan sakte hain? Aur kya aapke bacche wo kaam kar payenge? Sawal-o-jawab ke baad ye pata chala ke siwai chote chote statements ke, jaise ke ‘jhoot mat bolo’ ya ‘hamesha sach bolo’ hi yaad raha, aur kuch bhi nahi. Jo zyada complicated statements the aur jin statements ki wajah se bachchon par maa-baap ya family members pressure daal rahe the, ya iss ki wajah se cheekhte aur chillate the, wo unn ko yaad nahi tha.
  4. Uss research mein, aise khandano ke bachon ke dimag ke samne ke hisse (yani prefrontal cortex) ka MRI scan kiya gaya, ye dimagh ka wo hissa hai jo cognitive functions ke liye zimmedar hai, matlab ke,
    1. Apne aap ko qabu (control) mein rakhnay ke liye,
    2. Samjhdari ke liye,
    3. Memory, Information processing and storage ke liye,
    4. Attention, focus ke liye,

to aise bacche jo ke khandan ke mission statements aur values ki wajah se pressure me rahe, unke dimag ka ye hissa itna develop nahi huwa, jo cognitive functions ko ubharna hai, wo nahi develop huwa. Aur doosri taraf jin bachon mein khandani pressure ya dabao nahi tha aur unke maa-baap ne unhe sonchne aur samjhne ki taraf ubharte rahe, unka dimag acche se develop huwa aur unke andar bahut clarity payi gayi.

  1. Musnad Ahmed ki ek hadith me Gentleness ya narmi ke bare mein Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: narmi har ek cheez ko khubsurat bana deti hai jis me wo hoti hai aur jahan par narmi na ho to har cheez ko badsurat bana deti hai,
    1. Jo cheez andar se khubsurat hoti hai wo bhi badsurat lagti hai, kadwe pan ki vajah se,
    2. aur jo andruni taur per badsurat hoti hai wo khubsurat lagti hai gentleness ki vajah se,
    3. Ab hum apne apne gharon me dekh lein ke hum kya kar rahe hain, kya hum namaz ke liye, Quran parrhne ke liye to aisi sakhti nahi kar rahe hain? Humein gentleness se, pyar se nekiyon ki taraf raghib karna hoga.
    4. Kahin aisa na ho ke gentleness na hone ki wajeh se uske andar ki acchai khatam ho jari rahi ho
  2. Khandani pressure khatam kijiye aur ek behtreen jagah banaiye, jahan khandan wale apni frustrations nikal pheke aur unke dil-o-dimag halke ho jaye aur unhe lage ke unki baat kisi ne suni.

1.3. Teesra hissa – Hamare Ghar me, maa-baap aur bachon ke beech ka pressure

  1. Jaisa ke humne pichle section me suna Ibrahim (عليه السلام) ki aulad me, kayee generations tak nabuwwat chali, aur In-Sha Allah aage Quran mein parrhenge ke, Ibrahim (عليه السلام) jab bhi dua karte, to apne liye karte aur apni aulad ko uss mein zaroor shamil karte. Deen-e-haneef phailaane ka jo mission le kar aap utthe uss mission ko apni aulad ke liye bhi maange aur aakhri Rasool unki aulad me se ho, ye dua bhi ki jo, qabool huwi kayee hazar saal ke baad, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke nabi aur rasool banaye jaane ke sath.
  2. Aaj Science bhi yehi keh rahi hai, Psychology ki field me jo research ho rahi hai, wo ye batati hai ke infiradiyat (individuality) se zyada ahmiyat, importance khandan ya family ki hai.
  3. Lekin aaj kal duniya bhar me, aur hamare muashray mein me bhi, hume aur khas taur per hamare bachon ko ye sikhaya ja raha hai ke, infiradiyat ya ‘individuality’ bahut hi aham aur zaroori cheez hai, iss se zyada aham koi aur cheez nahi hai, ‘I love myself’, ‘apni pehchan bano’, ‘me time’ se lekar ‘single parents’ jaise kai sari cheezein sikhayi jarahi hain, aur iss mein tamam media bahut hi aham role ada kar raha hai.
  4. Motivational speakers ke kayee videos dekhne ko mil rahe hain aur wo ghair Islami taleemat de rahe hain aur family ko todne aur chhorrhne ki baatein karte hain.
  5. Aisa nahi ke insan ki apni koi haisiyat nahi hai, lekin sabse zyada ahmiyat family ki hai, ek society ke liye family zaroori hai ba-nisbat ek individual ke.
  6. Ellen Galinsky ek Psychologist hai, jo ke ‘Families & Work Institute’ ke liye research ka kaam karta hai, unhone ek hazar bachon ka interview liya aur unn sab se ek hi sawal kiya ke;
    1. Agar aapke waladain se aap koi khwahish puri karwana chahte hai, to wo kya hogi?
    2. Aur ye hi sawal unhone maa-baap se bhi poocha ke, aap kya sochte hai ki aap ke bacche kya kahenge?
    3. Ziyada tar maa-baap ne kaha ke yaqeenan hamare bache yehi bolne wale hain ke; “hamare walidein hamare sath ziyada waqt guzare”, lekin bachon ka jawab aisa nahi tha.
    4. Ziyada tar bacchon ne kaha ke hamari khwahish hai ke hamare waldain jab bhi hamare sath hon, to kum fikr-mand, kam bechain ho aur kam thakay huwe hon.
    5. Iss research ki khas baat ye hai ke bachon ne iss thakawat wali kaifiyat ko mehsoos kar liya. Jab bhi insan thaka huwa hota hai to uska tolerance ya bardasht karne ki takhat kam ho jati hai, aur wo chid-chida ho jata hai bachon ki taraf.
    6. Ab yahan work pressure ki jo baat hum pehle section me sune, uss ka asar family par ho raha hai, aur agar kisi ka din office mein accha nahi guzra to ye matlab nahi ke usse license mil gaya ke wo apna gussa bachon per ya apne ghar walon per nikale.
    7. Aur jab maa-baap relax rehte hain to family mein bahut hi acche asrat hote hain.
    8. Jo kamyab maa-baap hote hain wo ghaur karte hain aur encourage karte hain, aur jo na-kamyab maa-baap hote hain wo bachchon ki kamzoriyan talash karte hain.
    9. Bache bahut sari achi cheezain karte hain, aur bahut sari shararti cheezein bhi karte hain, lekin jo acchi cheezein karte hain wo maa-baap se chut jati hain, aur natije ke taur par unhe ye mehsoos hota hai ke achcha kaam karein ya nahi, koi faida nahi ho raha hai, to wo apne ravaiyye mein sakht ho jate hain.
    10. Bache ussi cheez karte hain, jiski wajah se unhe tawajjuh, attention ya tareef milti hai aur agar unhe attention ya tareef nahi mili to, wo achi cheez ya achche kaam nahi karte.
  7. to ye research mein bataya gaya hai ke acche maa-baap wo hote hain jo bachon mein acchayi dhundhte hai aur unn ko encourage karte hain aur bachon ke jazbaati halat ke hisab se mamla karte hai na ke apni tabiyat ya mood ke hisab se;
    1. aur sabse behtareen misal Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ki hai, Anas ibn Malik (رضی اللہ عنہ) farmate hain ke,
    2. ek bar Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) unke ghar aaye to Anas (رضی اللہ عنہ) ke sautele bhai jo ki 3 saal ke the, unke hath mein ek choti chidiya thi wo usse sehla rahe the, to Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne uss chote bacche se poocha ‘Ya Abu Umair’, yani itni choti umar se hi uss bachche ko khitab dete huwe poocha Aye Abu Umair, kya haal hai tumhari chidiya ka?
    3. Anas Ibn Malik (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) agay farmaate hain ke, Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) hamare ghar aate jaate rehte the, to ek baar phir baad mein aaye to poocha, Aye Abu Umair tumhari chidiya ka kya huwa? Abu Umair rote huwe Aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke paas aaye aur chimat gaye, kehnay lage ke chidiya mar gayi, chidiya mar gayi, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) uss bachche ghum me shamil huwe.
    4. Yahan ye ghaur karna hai ke kaise Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne uss chote 3 sala bacche se mamla kiya aur unke sath kis tarha ka ravaiyya rakha, chote bacche, Abu umair ko unke jazbati halat ke hisab se maamla kiya.
    5. To humein ye yaad rakhna hai ke, mera kharab mood ya meri pareshani meri family per kisi bhi tarah ka asar na kare.
  8. Ab acche maa-baap wo hote hain jo sonchne samjhne ki salahiyat ko bachchon me ubharte hain aur badhate hain na ke bachon per emotional dabao dalte hain.
  9. Aaj har ghar mein aam hai, bachon ko emotional black mail karte hain aur ye samajhte hain ke aisa karne se bachon ki hi madad ho rahi hai, lekin aisa nahi hai, sahi ye hai ke aap unke andar deen-e-islam ki talimat daliye, unki niyaton ko bachpan se hi theek kariye,
    1. Bachchon ko ye samjhaiye ke padhna likhna islam ka aham hissa hai aur Islam mein iski badi ahmiyat hai
    2. Bachchon ko ye kahiye ke suljhe huwe aur serious bano kyon ke samjh bhuj deen ka hissa hai
    3. har kaam mein bachon ki niyyaton ko theek kariye
  10. Bachchon ko criticize kam kijiye, aur sahi rasta dikhaiye, iska ye matlab nahi ke unhe shararat karne dijiye, bas darmiani rah ikhtiyaar kijiye
  11. Apne andar jhankiye, kahin yahan koi Abu Lahab to nahi baita, jaane anjane uss ideology ko follow to nahi kar rahe? Allah tala mujhe aur aap ko aur deegar sunne walon ko aisa banne se bachaye.

2. Family me jo Abu Lahab type ke log hote hain kya hum insay ladayi kar lein? Inki wajeh say family say door kahin chale jayein? Ya kya karein? 

Jaisa ke humne abhi Abu Lahab ke waqiye me Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ke amal ka jaiza liya, aur Abu Lahab ki beti Durrah (رضی اللہ عنھا) ki hadith suni, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) sila rahmi karte rahe aur sila rahmi karne ka hukum dete rahe, ye chand ahadith hai jo sila rahmi par hain;

  1. Bukhari ki ek hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: rishtedaari poora karne wala wo nahi hai jo, uss rishtedaar se husn-e-salook ya rishtedaari nibhata hai jo uss ke saath rishtedaari nibhate hain; balke wo hai jo sachche taur par rishtedaaron ko barqarar rakhta hai, halanke doosre ne rishtadari todh li ho.[1]
  2. Bukhari ki ek aur hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: Allah ne apni makhlooq ko paida kiya, phir jab woh usay khatam kar chuka to RAHAM utth kar Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ko pakad liya, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne farmaya kya baat hai? RAHAM ne bola, main unn logon se teri panah maangta hoon jo rishtedaaro ke rishte todhte hain. Iss par Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne farmaya ke, kya tum razi ho jaoge agar main uss shaks par ihsan kar doon jo tumhare nate rakhe aur jo tumhare nate tode uss shaks se meri nematein rok doon? RAHAM ne kaha, haan mere Rabb, phir Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) ne farmaya ke ye tumhare liye hai. Abu Hurairah (رضي الله عنه) ne mazeed kaha: agar aap chahein to Surah Muhammad ki ye ayat padh lo;

Ab kya tum logon se iss ke siway kuch aur tawaqqo (expectation) ki ja sakti hai ke, agar tum ko hukumat mil jaye to, zameen me fasad ya na insaafi phailaoge, aur khooni rishte todh loge?

  1. Bukhari aur Muslim ki hadith me Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: RAHAM, jiss se tamam rishtedaari nikalti hai, Arsh se latak raha hai, aur kehta hai ke, jiss kisi ne mujh se acha taloq rakha, to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) uss se taloq qayem rakhega aur jiss kisi ne mujh se apna taloq todh liya, to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) bhi uss se taloq todh dega.
  2. Bukhari, Musliim aur Abu Dawood ki ek aur hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: jo rishtedari todh leta hai, rishton ko qayem nahi rakhta, wo jannat me nahi jayega.
  3. Bukhari ki ek hadith me aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya: ke jo shaks ye chahta hai ke, uss ko zyada maal diya jaye, aur uss ki umar lambi ho to usse chahiye ke apne rishtedaaron ke saath acha salook kare.
  4. Bukhari aur Muslim ki ek Hadith me, aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne khule-aam kaha ke, chacha Abu Talib aur unn ki family mere wali, mere dost, mere supports nahi hain. Mera supporter to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) hai aur wo log hain jo mujh par Iman laye. Lekin wo khandan se meri rishtedaari hai, jiss se main acha taloq rakhoonga.
  5. Tirmidhi ki ek hadith ka mafhoom hai ke, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, ek ghareeb ki madad karoge to wo sadaqa hai, aur agar ek rishtedaar ki madad karoge to wo sadaqa bhi hai aur rishtedaari ka taloq qayem rakhna ka sawab bhi hai
  6. Quran aur Hadith me hukum aya hai ke apne wadon ko aur qasamo ko poora karo, Abu Dawood ki ek hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, agar koi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) se nafarmani karne ki qasam khata hai to wo qasam jaiz nahi. Aur agar koi rishtedaari todne ki qasam khata hai to wo qasam jaiz nahi – Iss ka matlab ye hai ke, ye do qasame poora karne ki zaroorat nahi.
  7. Imam Bukhari ki kitab, Adab al-Mufarrad ki hadith hai ke, do kaam aise hain ke jiss ka azab duniya aur akhirat dono me milta hai, ek hai kisi par zulm karna aur doosra hai rishtedaari to
  8. Muslim ki ek hadith me, Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, bande ki dua qabool hoti hai, agar wo rishte todhne ki dua na kare aur be sabra na ho.
  9. Bukhari ki ek hadith me, Hakim bin Hizam ne Rasoolullah (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) se sawal kiya ke, main Islam qabool karne se pehle nek kaam karta tha jaise, sadaqa dena, ghulamo ko azad karna, aur rishtedaaro se acha salook karna, kya musalman hone se pehle ke ye amal ka koi ajar mujhe milega? To aap (صَلَّى ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) ne farmaya ke, ye nek amaal ki wajah se hi to tum, Islam qabool kar
  10. Sahaba (رضی اللہ عنہم) ki hidayat;
    1. (i) Ibn Umar (رضی اللہ عنہ) farmate hain ke, agar koi Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) se darta rahe (yani taqwa ikhtiyar kare), rishtedariyan nibhata rahe, to uss ki umar lambi ho jaati hai, uss ki maal-o-daulat badh jati hai, aur uss ke log uss se muhabbat karte h
    2. (ii) Ibn Abbas (رضی اللہ عنہ) farmate hain ke, apne shijre ka, apne rishtedaron ka record rakho, takay rishtedariyan qaim rakh sako,
      • wo apne rishtedaron ko door nahi karega, jab ke wo qareebi rishtedar ho halanke wo door hi kyun na rehte ho.
      • wo apne rishtedaron ko qareebi nahi samjhega, jab ke wo door ke rishtedar ho halanke wo qareeb me hi kyun na rehte ho.
      • Har qism ka rishta qayamat ke din, insaan ke samne laya jayega aur wo uss shaks ke haq me gawahi dega ke uss ne rishta rakha tha, agar waqay me rishaton ka khayal rakhta tha.
      • Aur uss shaks ke khilaf gawahi dega agar wo rishtedari khayam nahi rakhi thi.

Reference:[1] http://www.sunnah.com/riyadussaliheen/1/322

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